I think the basic issue we are talking about is, “What is the balance between our sailing life together, and our community - the family and friends in our life?”
The Admiral and I have moved 17 times in our lives, twice for extended stays in Europe. Although we have close friends across the USA and Europe, we decided about 21 years ago to retire in Columbus, Ohio, where our community connections were strongest. We bought Lady Lillie on Lake Erie 18 summers ago when I was moved to Cleveland. We spent 20 to 30 nights a summer on her including cruises of 1 or 2 weeks. We also began chartering for a week at a time around the world. Three years later, we did return to Columbus, traveling over two hours to our boat in Sandusky and the Erie Islands.
We planned an eight week “sabbatical” from our jobs serving folks in Columbus to cruise Lakes Erie and Ontario to the Thousand Islands and back in 2009. We loved the trip! We found that there seemed to be no limit on our ability to cruise together on our boat. But after our return, we also reflected that 8 weeks away had a noticeable impact on our relationships with: two of our daughters and their families including 6 grandchildren; my two brothers and their families who also ended their careers in Columbus; our friends and group activities; and the people we served in our jobs, and as volunteers. The result was to plan our next long cruise to the North Channel in two three week segments, which worked out very well.
We are now both retired, so our service work for the folks in the community is now wholly volunteer. My Mom has now moved to Columbus. We still love cruising on Lady Lillie, and on charters. Yes, we read of the long cruises and dream about that lifestyle. But we hold to the balance that prioritizes our relationships ashore. And we realize that the cruising life would have a strong negative impact on those relationships. And that impact is seldom discussed when we dream of a cruising life in the sailing community.