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A quarter of the responses ignored or wanted to change conditions of the situation as it was given, and either made the situation more dire, e.g., failed radios, or less than was specified in the question: you fail, because you are pessimists from the get-go, or you will not be able to sprinkle the same Pixie Dust on the situation when it happens in the real world.Half of the responses scolded the hypothetical skipper of the boat for making such unwise choices, and then lectured us on proper seamanship, thus avoiding part or all of the question: you also fail, because while you were pontificating, the boat went up on the lee shore, the crew doesn't even have PFDs on, and no one even knows you're there. Let's hope you succumb to the hypothermia first and shut up.A few responses made good headway and are very reasonable responses, with a few misunderstandings (reefing sails that are completely doused, for example), but I think no one put it all together. I'm adding nothing new, but rather snipping and stitching together pieces from several of those responses.*** *** *** ***For the purposes of discussion, let's say it's the husband who is seasick, and his wife who is crying.This hypothetical skipper faces a bull with two horns: the practical seamanship that will secure the safety of his yacht and passengers; and the affective challenge that has incapacitated two-thirds of his potential crew. Both problems need to be addressed, either by direct action or delegation.1) With the help of your spouse, tighten up the mainsail's outhaul before it gets tensioned by the wind and is impossible to adjust, get the main back up carrying its deepest reef; mainsheet hard in, halyard banjo tight, and pinch up to forereach. Ease the traveler car as necessary. This will get the boat moving and reduce the heavy rolling that is causing your passengers much of their physical and emotional distress.Only if the little production boat simply cannot handle the conditions should some sort of passive strategy be attempted, i.e., dragging anything you can as a sea anchor to keep the bow on to the wind and slowly drifting down on that lee shore that is a couple of hours away, hoping the gale will abate to allow you to get going under sail again, or finally calling for rescue as you approach the lee shore when the CGs resources may be occupied elsewhere is a greatly less-preferred strategy, and a gamble as well.2) Your spouse is an important overlooked resource in this scenario: call her over, tell her things will be okay, but that for that to happen, you will need to depend on her to both be available to you for essential work on deck, and to take up the burden of the physical and psychological welfare of your passengers/erstwile crew.2) Announce to the three that things have gotten challenging, but there is no reason to believe that you cannot make it back up the seven miles to your home marina under sail. Still, the conditions warrant the precautionary steps of: a) breaking out PFDs (foul weather gear for you and your spouse; whatever else is available for your guests) for everyone. (The captain dons his as well: good practice and good leadership), and b) giving the Coast Guard a "Hello" as standard practice so that they can monitor your situation and connect you with a tow service once you get up to your channel, if that becomes necessary (don't say the word "rescue." That was their first thought when you said "Coast Guard." Leave them with the thought that you are capable, but prudent, and that it is not time to panic). Tell them that most of these gales are short-lived, and by the time you get near your marina, chances are things will have settled down enough to anchor outside and attempt engine repairs so you can enter the channel under your own power.Now you have a crew, a boat that is on her feet, and a leader with a plan.3) Make the Pan-Pan call, providing the CG (I'm assuming the CG will respond to your Pan-Pan) with your boat's name, description, number of crew, the conditions you are experiencing (including your failed engine), your sail configuration and the boat's response to it, your best position fix and destination. Ask for a weather forecast. Advise them you will monitor Ch. 16 and give half-hour updates.4) Get your crew busy with tasks to occupy them, at least temporarily: the one who is seasick doesn't have the skill to man the helm and keep the boat pinched up and steady, but if he's not totally given over to mal de mer, he can stow loose gear or help you try to roll out a little headsail if the boat can carry it. Make him your lookout for other boat traffic, fetch your harness, read instruments from the companionway and report back, whatever. In the meantime, your spouse has consoled the crying woman and they've gotten busy securing gear and possessions down below, getting some crackers up to your seasick crewman, and any other food into everybody else; if they can use the stove safely to heat water for soup, broth, tea or coffee, all the better. The husband now has something to do to keep his mind off of his nausea; the wife feels much better, both seeing her husband contributing to her (everyone's) safety and being part of a positive plan of action herself, with your wife for additional comfort. Try to get the women back up in the cockpit as soon as possible and as heel/space allow; it really is a better ride up there.If the husband is incapacitated, his care devolves to your wife, or his wife if she is showing enough fortitude, to free up your one experienced crew woman.Give the crew a recap of your conversation with the CG. If the weather forecast is for improving weather, relay it to the crew.5) When you notice the wind reducing, the swells getting smaller, the boat standing up taller, or any positive event that can be used for boosting morale, announce it to your crew. If you have GPS, give periodic distance updates to them. Anything substantive will be good for their outlook and determination to bond together as a crew. References to the movie "The Perfect Storm" would be contra-indicated.Now you're a functioning team.6) When you get outside your home marina, a couple of hours have gone by, and the conditions are likely to have improved. Try to find any available shelter. If conditions/depth permit, anchor, make sure you have a good set, rig chaffing gear if it's still necessary, and notify the CG; then check in with everybody, tell them it's either repair the engine or be towed in, so it's likely that they all will live now. Allow for some emotional catharsis, thank everyone for their help, then get to the engine. Lowered RPM prior to stalling suggests fuel supply, and the timing of the problem suggests clogged a filter from tank grime, so check lines and spin on a new filter before getting into deeper trouble-shooting. Don't forget the tank pick-up tube and its screen, a common culprit.If the swell is still high and driven, and/or anchoring is impractical, it's better to congratulate yourself for getting back safely, and call for your tow while under sail outside your marina. 7) The gale is likely blown over by now. If you can't get the engine running in an hour, call for a tow inside to your slip.8) When you're back in the slip, thank your crew for their steadiness and dependability when things got interesting; praise them for rising to the challenge and giving their best when it was needed. Be available to let them do more "de-briefing" talk before you get them and their gear safely to their car. Wave and smile as they pull away. Don't let them see your hand shaking.9) Bestow you wife with TRIPLE PRAISE for being the best, most dependable, dedicated crew you could ever imagine having, and suggest that you take a "Heavy Weather Tactics" course together before she has a chance to say it. Secure the boat with just the essentials, get her home, and cater to her for the rest of the evening.10) Before you take the boat out again, a) inspect standing and running rigging from masthead to chain plates for stress-related damage/weakening, b) survey your major systems (electrical wiring, battery straps, pumps, hoses, anything else you think could have shaken loose, and any remaining engine issues, and c) review your decision-making process and people skills, and pre-sailing procedures (like getting a wx forecast before every day sail), and list the specific equipment/provisions you want on board against similar conditions: Sea anchor? Hot cocoa packets? Take the opportunity to reflect on good seamanship, your skill level, and safety issues over the next few weeks.