I wonder if the problem is flushing with salt water, but not flushing enough water through each time? I'm no chemist, but I would have to think that there is a necessary concentration of uric acid for to precipitate the calcium out of the seawater, and for some time to pass in this condition as well. If you flush the pipes after you pee with enough sea water so that no urine remains in the pipes in any measurable concentration for any length of time, there should be no deposits.
I suspect the folks experiencing these deposits are simply not flushing enough water through, probably out of concern for holding tank capacity, or they simply haven't ever considered what sufficient flushing is. It you can't see it in the bowl, you're done flushing - not! I flush, imagining the water moving everything into the holding tank, including flushing out the hose from bowl to tank. Since I am usually on the boat for only two days at a time, with weekly 'automatic' pump-outs, holding tank capacity is not an issue.
As I said, I have no clogged hose issues that I know of, no odor problem, and have never rebuilt the head. It's a 29 year old Wilcox-Crittenden Head Mate. I don't think it was ever rebuilt before I got the boat 13 years ago. I have a rebuild kit on board that came with the boat, just in case!
I think the key is lots of flush water.
Mainesail, if you really want to conduct an interesting experiment, get some seawater and pee, and mix varying concentrations to see what the precipitate looks like...oh, never mind.