The Fork in the Road

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Nov 22, 2008
3,562
Endeavour 32 Portland, Maine
I can’t remember facing a decision which would have such a major effect on the rest of my life. It seemed settled and I’ve even spoken of it as such but I find myself going back and forth realizing that the first choice was somewhat of a knee jerk and it deserves more thought. I’m going to become a woman.

No, just kidding but it seems like almost as big a deal in our current world. One thing is decided, barring the unexpected. I’m going to get on the boat in June and start cruising. For how long people ask? My joking answer actually has a lot of truth in it, “Until I have to be carried off the boat.” Given my health and family history, that shouldn’t be for about another quarter century.

I’ll certainly be visiting family and friends and making all kinds of side trips but I plan to spend as much time living and cruising on Strider as I can, for as long as I can. The burning question is whether I go off the grid and disappear to just live life in the moment focusing just on my surroundings and the people I meet. That has a huge appeal. The alternative is to outfit the boat with Internet and stay plugged into the cyber community that has been such a large part of my life.

For over two decades of working alone, forums like this have been my substitute for co-workers and water cooler talk. Leaving it would be as momentous as leaving home when I was young. However, I’m ready for such a change. A major part of my enjoyment of the shorter cruises I’ve gone on in the past few years has been being out of touch and insulated from the torrent of news, little of which is ever conducive to peace and contemplation of what I go cruising to see.

OTOH, and this is one of those conundrums where each side is compelling, the Internet is now a great cruising resource. Resources like Active Captain and updated charts can make it easier and safer while, like GPS, taking some of the adventure out of it. I’ll probably have more friends joining me if I can stay in touch and the intellectual part of life will certainly be richer.

I also have an arrangement to serve as a consultant to a company on any research vessel projects that may come up. Since I intend to cruise freely and flexibly, I figure I’ll just sail to their waterfront office and live in the marina or store the boat and relocate there temporarily if projects come up. Internet connectivity might let me stay right where I am at the time.

One thing I am sure off, once Internet is on the boat, it is there to stay and will dominate life. It’s like GPS, no matter how much you may tell yourself that you won’t use it and will continue navigating the old fashioned way to keep the skills sharp, hey, this is real life. Starting out with just cell phone and relying on occasional WiFi is a reversible decision. Outfitting with anywhere (almost) Internet is not.

My fear is that, if I stay plugged in, I’ll find myself spending huge amounts of time in beautiful places hunkered in the cabin typing away at a keyboard, just as I have spent most of my time for the last quarter century. I’m sure I will do less walking, meet fewer people, and experience less of what is the whole object of my retirement.

There would be compensations though. As you know, I enjoy writing about my boat projects and cruises. It is nice to be part of a large community like the sailing cyber world. I’ll be going some interesting places. I’m attracted much more to the cold and wild lands north and east than south. I plan to circumnavigate Newfoundland and see a bit of Labrador before I’m done. However, I’m also committed to never shrink wrapping the boat or winterizing the engine again so I’ll see a lot of the east coasts and, at least, the Bahamas. Writing about things like flying and cruising has enriched both of them for me. It certainly would continue to do so but all things have their price.

Economic price also figures into it. I have an income that I can count on as long as I can keep air going in and out but it’s very modest for living and cruising on a boat. The cost of setting up and maintaining Internet may answer the question for me. I expect I’ll be going back and forth on this question for some time. Come summer, I’ll either be pretty much disappearing or you’ll be treated (or bombarded depending on your point of view) to a running account of my cruising and boat repairing adventures.
 

RECESS

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Dec 20, 2003
1,509
Catalina 27 . St. Mary's Georgia
It will really be a matter of expense if you are trying to make your dollars go as far as you can. I am sure you will find many a wifi available as every resort and marina offers it now. If you are really going to do this I think Capn Ron's advice here is the answer, "if its gonna happen boss, its gonna happen out there". I am sure the first year of cruising will answer all your questions.

I am so green with envy..... I hope for years to come people just read the first paragraph and leave in shock, forever telling how Roger decided to become a woman!!

:D

Lucky bastage!!!
 
Jun 7, 2004
265
- - Milwaukee
Well I for one would enjoy reading your posts. Maybe you can find a one-way internet connection: thou shalt send, thou shalt not receive. That would certainly cut down on your hunker time. It will be interesting to see how this resolves. Will $$ control? Will it become a social or socialization issue? Meantime, congratulations on your decision to hop aboard and not look back.
 
Oct 2, 2008
3,811
Pearson/ 530 Strafford, NH
Jeezum Roger, are you sitting at the end of the bar at $3 Dewey's.
http://www.threedollardeweys.com/
My bucket list is only one paragraph and I never thought you had the legs for the gender change. Let me know before you cast off, I still have questions.
All U Get
 
Feb 26, 2004
23,362
Catalina 34 224 Maple Bay, BC, Canada
Please stay in contact.

I just came back from a three week vacation in New Zealand. I didn't miss a thing on the trip, but really enjoyed staying connected.

You will find that you can "manage" your internet connectivity time to your needs and wants.

Plus, you're such a valuable resource.
 
Sep 15, 2009
6,244
S2 9.2a Fairhope Al
I can’t remember facing a decision which would have such a major effect on the rest of my life. It seemed settled and I’ve even spoken of it as such but I find myself going back and forth realizing that the first choice was somewhat of a knee jerk and it deserves more thought. I’m going to become a woman.:eek:

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better yet just go get one on a trial bases....when i had to change directions ......first i went and signed the papers and then went to the other side of the state to a three day golf outing and did just that ....yea yea i know it sounds very maleistic but it does help ones confidence....

good luck my friend in what ever you do...when one door closes for some strange reason another one opens and life is like a book with lots of chapters so turn the page and start a new chapter it could be worse.... as in the end of the book......and ont worry about money it will take care of its self......

regards

woody
 
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Oct 6, 2008
857
Hunter, Island Packet, Catalina, San Juan 26,38,22,23 Kettle Falls, Washington
Roger, I didn't see in your posts wheather or not you are keeping a home in your present location or not? We sold ours and maintained only the boat which was in excellent condition and thus had smaller upkeep costs.
We found that our expences were actually much less than living in our house. We went cruising back in the time when wireless internet was a very expensive option and we had to seek out cafe's or libraries. We lived on the hook 90% of the time and became up close friends with our dingy. We bought in bulk and packed the boat with great care.
Overall our costs for the two of us were much, much lower than living on the hard. Your clothing costs are close to zero with sun screen the highest item. The fears all go away when you drop the hook for the first time. As time moves forward we found contacts with our past came further and further apart. Those that endured were every bit as dear as before just further apart. There were new places and people that filled that extra time. The trips home were sweeter for the time spent away.
I truly wish you well, you are now the most interesting man in the world. And when you drink beer, drink cold mexican beer!
Ray
 
Jan 22, 2008
1,483
Hunter 37 C sloop Punta Gorda FL
All the best whatever you decide Roger. Shouln't be long till 4g phones provide adequate band widths. Tethering with 3g stuff sucks.
 

jfmid

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Jan 31, 2010
152
Oday 27 LE Manahawkin, NJ
Roger,
Long been a fan of your reasoned posts and great perspective. My take on your conundrum may go against the grain but I feel it provides you with more flexibility and rewards YOU. In short "ditch the internet access on board"
The self serving part of me would love to see you still connected and regularly posting but I agree with your honest assesment. You would probably spend a lot of time hunkered down in your cabin typing away rather than seeing the world.
I am sure you have a cell phone. Most have an email cabability nowadays that allow you to see new emails and even type the most basic of replies although it is agonizingly slow. If you see something that requires immed attention you shoot off a very short reply and make way towards a port that you can get online at. You would still have your laptop and can compose posts and keep a journal. When you get to a more developed place you dink in and sit down at a cybercafe and upload.
Worst comes to worst and you hate being offline you add it later. I totally agree with you that if it's there from the start you will stay hooked to it and miss so much of what's out there waiting for you to discover. You've given so much of yourself that now it's time for you to explore as much as you can without a tether. Our loss, your gain.
Whatever you decide it will be for the best and I am thrilled for you that you get to go off to the unknown. First Zeehag and now Roger. Next MaineSail will be telling us he's pulled up anchor and sailing for Tahiti.

Ps You might want to try a drag outfit to be really sure before you snip things off as it's really tough to reattach. Ask Wayne Bobbit...
 
Nov 22, 2008
3,562
Endeavour 32 Portland, Maine
be really sure before you snip things off
Believe me, it's only the tether to cyberspace I was ever thinking of snipping. However, the lifestyle implications of that are probably as great, or even greater, than the other.

I very much appreciate your post. I've felt an avalanche of weight coming down on one side of the scales so it's nice to see a reasoned argument for the other. I'm glad I've got some time to make this decision.
 
Jun 8, 2004
3,013
Catalina 320 Dana Point
I've always avoided TV's & internet onboard for reasons you've mentioned, untill I got the Admiral an Ipad for Christmas. Even on 3-G runs just fine, seems indispensible now. In June I'm due for free upgrades from Verizon so I'll either get one of their portable 4G hotspots or I understand their Iphone can also act as a hotspot.
BTW I'm probably the only person left with a flip phone and roll up windows on my pickup so I'm not standing in line for the newest technology but mobile broadband just seems too good to go without.
 

higgs

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Aug 24, 2005
3,736
Nassau 34 Olcott, NY
I think you will miss contact with the outside if you elect to go off line.
 

LuzSD

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Feb 21, 2009
1,009
Catalina 30 San Diego/ Dana Point, Ca.
Wow, I almost missed this post, there have been many since you made it yesterday. I have most enjoyed your perspective on posts here and love the links to your articles each time. I love the fact that you are healthy and active with skiing or sailing being two sports we have in common with you. So, all that said, I agree with Jfmid and Calif. Ted...and your idea of living only in the moment with those you are with and forgoing the internet at least for a while. You can always add things back in but once done, you are probably right, you will stay linked and active more than you really wish you were. From everything I have read since being on this site, I am sure you will find a really great way to meet all your needs. You are a tremendous writer so I am sure you will continue that and I would look for a book from you after a while.
Sometimes you just gotta make a change that shakes everything up so you can realize what you really need and want. Will watch with interest how decide on your path at this new fork.
 
May 31, 2007
784
Hunter 37 cutter Blind River
When I sailed the tropics the SSB was my link to the world. I always wished I'd had a Pactor modum so I could get emails and weather grib files but I survived just fine without them. The cruising community corresponds daily on the SSB and there is always a weather expert available. Internet waited until I was in port and then I spent a day at a cafe or bar catching up. I would far rather, for safety and information, be on the SSB than have internet on the boat. In fact, I wouldn't go offshore without it.
 
Jun 9, 2004
963
Hunter 40.5 Bayfield, WI
I'd miss your postings on these forums so I am hoping you'll stay connected and keep us up to date on your adventures. Are you looking for a cook? I am pretty good in the galley!
 

kenn

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Apr 18, 2009
1,271
CL Sandpiper 565 Toronto
I'm employed in server programming, so the Internet is "family" and sucks down a very large part of my day. Even so, I have established some boundaries: I don't get and read personal email at work, and generally don't read work email at home. I'm not on Facebook - that's just too much of my life (time and info) that would be frittered away. Ditto for Twitter. And so on.

On vacation, I will often bring a small netbook with wifi but I usually just do email with it, or the occasional search for info. This year I may use it more as a navigation aid, now that I've got a USB GPS plug-in for it.

My point is that anyone with the discipline to cut the shoreline and start long-term cruising is probably also disciplined enough to self-limit their Internet usage aboard. But it's too darn useful a tool to cut oneself off from, in my opinion.
 
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