Learn to Heave to
When you want to reef, get a rest, or have lunch:Come about, backwinding the jib by not releasing the jib sheet.Ease the traveler/mainsheet so the boom end is over the leeward side of the cockpit.Lash the tiller to leeward (or the wheel to windward - anyway, set the rudder so that it turns the boat into the wind when the main fills.The boat will quiet right down. Oscilating between the backwinded jib, and the main/rudder, it will be drifting 1-2 knots downwind.Now go about the business of reefing the main. I wear a harness tethered to jacklines or strong points whenever I am single handing, but this is certainly the drill going forward. With the boat relaxed/hove to, you can take your time, and get the reef in right..When you are ready, unlash the tiller/wheel, and let go of the windward jib sheet, then hauling in on the leeward sheet to take off on the now completed tack.That's it. By the way, we heave to to reef even when the admiral or crew are aboard. It's just a lot quieter (and better on the sails) than trying to hold the boat into the wind to reef.Good sailing,DavidLady Lillie