Don't Worry, Be Happy
Much of my anxiety over this problem is overcome when one realizes that if you're alone, there's no reason on earth that it has to look pretty. I have an autopilot, but at least 50% of the time I don't use it when coming about or triming the sails. Coming about, don't worry about the main, it takes care of itself during the maneuver. Stand in front of the pedestal (you can still turn the wheel, you know, standing in front!!). Get the windward genny sheet one or two turns around the winch (or wench), undo the leeward sheet. Turn that wheel and as she comes to the wind let go of the leeward sheet, grab the other sheet and pull in the slack. Note that letting go of the wheel intermittently to let you mess with the sheets won't significantly affect the maneuver once the main comes around. It's now possible to sit on the new leeward side and crank the genny in with one hand while the other hand is on the wheel. If not, let go of the wheel intermittently while you crank. When all done, sit back, relax, take a deep breath, and decide when exactly you'll be ready to trim the main which, again, is done by letting go of the wheel intermittently or using the wheel brake (works good too). Again, all of this may not look pretty, but it works. Not to be attempted while racing or within striking distance of another boat! Once you master this, then worry about your real problem (at least its my real problem single handing) and that's getting that boat into the dock with a minimum of damage - especially if the wind is tricky. This is going to sound terrible, but realizing that the boat is only under my control when it has forward motion, I've given up using reverse to stop the boat when I'm by myself at the dock - more often than not it's when you throw her into reverse to stop her that the bow and stern start to do funny things. In my case the stern pulls away from the dock and if the wind is also blowing in that direction you can get into trouble. My inflatable dinghy is tied to the dock in front where the bow will be coming in on my return (one large mother fender) and I have a dock wheel at the aft corner of the dock. I come in as slow as possible (creeping in with it in neutral - as long as its moving I have some control), I get off the boat with a long bow lline and a stern line in hand. As the boat starts to hit the dinghy (my large fender in front!) I tie the bow line around a cleat thats at about midships on the dock to stop the forward motion, holding the stern line to keep the stern from getting too far out - if necessary you hook the stern line under the same cleat. A tip - since the bow line is long so that you have in the cockpit with you, take steps to keep it from going overboard where it will tangle in the prop, stop the engine, and leave you helpless in the marina (been there, done that). When the smoke clears, you stop sweating, your heart rate gets below 120, and everyone on the dock stops laughing at you, you make your final adjustments.Any Help?,Alan BierOne More Hour, C30, 3593