okay, this from a lifetime rver, who has average experience on sailboats and has just lived aboard once, back in the early 80's for a few months. we have 3 different motorhomes (with 30 amp service), all of which we've had various plumbing, electrical, you-name-it problems with throughout the years and have learned to fix ourselves, since most rv places just overcharge you for a problem, basically just shotgunning the potential solutions, and figuring you'll be back eventually (or not) to have them go through it all again. tweaking, tweaking, tweaking and billing accordingly... anyway, what we've found in our electrical issues over time is pretty much what is described above by just about everyone. one thing i did NOT see, but might have missed is really quite simple. without making another change, and with the same plugs, connectors and extensions you already have, would it be possible to MOVE your boat to another slip, just to check to see if the same problem exists over there??? we actually have run an rv park for a couple of months at a time for a friend of ours, and we had a near-identical problem to yours. we just kept burning the expensive umbilicals and fittings up. finally, we had a cancellation at a newer site, about halfway across the park, moved over to it for about 2-3 weeks, and you guessed it, the problem was GONE. we hired an electrician to come out and fix the pole/box where the original problem kept popping up - cost us several hundred bux in expensive, heavy gauge rv cords over two summers there, and similar end-fitting burnouts were happening to us sporadically in (older) rv parks in central texas and oklahoma. don't know what he found, but in just over an hour, and with whatever he replaced, the problem's never happened again to us or anyone else at that site. he did say that 'we were running low voltage to norm, with some major spikes' or something like that. i've kept one of the $60, brand-new, but burned up cable plugs in my electrical compartment just to remind me to watch where we park. we also got a $300 voltage regulator dongle-thingy on sale for $150 or so, and we use it at every park we go to. ALL of our electrical problems are GONE! likely for good... to us it's a miracle in those old parks. i'm sure it'll save an a/c unit or two for us over the years. just file this under the 'just a thought' column as it's just about worth that or less.
jack b

in midland, tx usa