Judging from your photo and video, it does not appear to me that your sails are blown out. I do see some issues with the mainsail, as outlined below.
Balancing your rig (sails and steering) are a good starting point. An airfoil rudder is a good step - when I replaced my stock rudder with one I did experience less weather helm and overall turbulence.
In my experience, excess weather helm is caused primarily by an overpowered mainsail. Experiment with mast bend (if your boat is equipped with an adjustable backstay, that is). Tightening the backstay flattens the mainsail, depowering it and reducing weather helm. This could help even in moderate breezes. It's possible that tightening the upper shrouds could accomplish this, but I would not see this as an ideal solution (to difficult to change in changing conditions.
In your video and photo it looks like the luff of the main is a little slack. This is the functional equivalent of tightening the cunningham, as it creates more curve in the sail near the intersection of the mast and boom, increasing power. Too much power at the main is a major cause of weather helm. When sailing in anything greater than light breeze, I would suggest you get that main halyard good and tight so there is no slack in the luff. This is not easy with your rig. Before I led my halyards aft (allowing me to use the winches to tighten the halyards), I used a snubbing winch on the mast to help with this, but these are not easy to find. Perhaps a clam cleat above the horn cleat on the mast will help hold tension while you get the halyard cleated off?
I find that fresh breeze means time to reef. I don't like to reef because wind speeds vary a lot on my little lake, but in your case it may be the thing to do. Flying too much sail will work against you, as your boat's hull speed will ultimately limit your potential speed. A properly balanced rig will give you better speed since it cuts down on turbulence at the rudder and windage from heeling.
As previously mentioned, keel angle will affect the balance of the boat, so once you have addressed your overall sail tuning, start experimenting with keel angle.
I use a quick-release clam cleat (Clamcleat CL257), mounted on my tiller. Holds the rudder down nicely, releases under stress, adjustable. I have not had to buy a new hold-down cable since I installed mine. Hard to find, but available on Ebay:
Clamcleat ® CL257 Auto Release Cleat for Rudders 5024220125706 | eBay
The downside of decreasing weather helm in your case is that you might have to change your handle from "Heelboy" to "Sailing-at-25-degrees-tilt-or-less boy". Or not...
I have no experience with auto helms, so can offer no insights in that regard.
Best of luck, and happy sailing!