Inclinometer
I use a small inclinometer, mounted in the forward end of the cockpit. Usually try to keep things between 10 and 15 degrees. This is much more comfortable than 20+, and the boat seems to like this angle best. If I feel spirited, then I sometimes lean on things a liittle bit more, but around 20 degrees weather helm starts getting pretty bad, and around 30 it almost becomes unmanagable. One more thing. When you start getting larger angles of heel, you are working the boat harder, and things are more apt. to break. I broke a forestay last year a few miles offshore, and I can tell you, it was no fun. Not to mention expensive.