Reefing considerations
Back in the days of loose footed mains, conventional wisdom was to reef only around the foot of the sail, not around the boom. Gathering up the loose material at the foot (reefed foot) of the sail is important for 2 reasons. It gives the sail the MUCH better shape and prevents flogging of the loose fabric. Basically, the reef points are used as substitutes for whatever system you use to secure the foot of your sail to the boom. Improper reefing, too tight or too loose, will potentially damage your sail, especially if reefed around the boom. Too loose will still allow the sail to flog and severely strain the reef points. Not good. If you do not have the reefed clew TIGHTLY secured, the strain will be taken by the reef points. Also not good. If you do not use the reef points, you will strain the reefed tack and clew, especially if the sail is not designed as loose footed. Again, not good. Once the reefed tack and clew are secured, you can adjust the tightness of the reef points as needed to reduce any wrinkling (a sign of strain)in the sail. Every once in a great while, I'll even see reefed jibs. Gives credence to the loose footed main theory. However you reef, strain will be your primary concern. Ripped sails don't hold shape very well. A point to consider. Sail makers don't go to the expense of adding reef points because they look cool. They are there to be used. I think your buddy would be well served by doing a bit more reading about reefing.Sailing yesterday in winds gusting to 25 kts, I had my C30 single reefed. The aft two points were tied tightly around the boom. The forward point had a little (very little) play, just enough to erase a wrinkle. Very comfortable ride, except for the rain. Sorry this is so long. Hope it's helpful.