i think emily post and amy vanderbilt in their etiquette books should include the before and after deeevorse names for exes--before, introduce as " this is zelda,my wife" and after: "the ex" ------LOL
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MY self esteem doesnt 'wither' at someone using disrespect--it is ugly of the person to use the disrespect in the first place--if ye cant say NICE things about your s.o., then dont bother. if you cant talk about a current s.o., well, then dont. the ex, on the other hand, deserves the bash. sorry. jmho.
it really denegrates the one talking rather than the non-id individual about whom you are discussing. go figger.
when someone uses MY car and THE wife, one wonders if the man should , perhaps, have married the car.
it really denegrates the one talking rather than the non-id individual about whom you are discussing. go figger.
when someone uses MY car and THE wife, one wonders if the man should , perhaps, have married the car.
One thing that rings true when bashing the ex - and it goes for me too - remember, you picked her/him.
Highly entertaing thread! My husband frequently refers to the sailboat we own as "his" sailboat. I finally asked him why it was "his" when I pay 3/4 of the bills, do 2/3 of the work and get 1/4 of the say? I have taken to referring to him as my "first" husband.
He doesn't think that's funny either!
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He doesn't think that's funny either!
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Tell him to wake up and smell the coffee. It has been mentioned here that some are happy enough to be called to dinner but if they stayed in the kitchen and cleaned up behind the cook they would know when the meal was ready. Nancy and I have an agreement, If I do most of the food shopping and the cooking she does the clean up. Sometimes the cook will spend a couple of hours preparing a meal that is eaten in ten or fifteen minutes and then the cook is left with dirty dishes and food to put away and often doesn't get a thanks or that was good hon.
Maureen O'Hara and The Duke in The Quiet Man!!!Seems like John Wayne never had trouble with this.
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There is absolutely no doubt that my wife, Gabrielle or Gabi to those who know her well, is the Admiral in our family. It is she who does all the planning, manages the operations, dispenses discipline, and keeps the family in tip top shape. I would be helplessly adrift without her and I try each and every day to tell her how beautiful she is and how much I love her. It was she who scraped the cash together to buy our boat, skimping on other things to make it possible. She is right beside me when we sail and she loves the close hauled, healed over, rails in the water, feeling more than me. I know that I am a lucky man to have her in my life and am equally lucky to have her on the water by my side. I think a man or woman knows in his or her heart whether the manner in which they refer to their spouse is contemptuous or loving. If you think with contempt you will receive contempt and if you think with love you will receive love. To me it's a simple choice.
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one of the best column writers on the Chesapeake Bay refers to his wife as "she who must be obeyed" -- I think that's classic!
one of the best column writers on the Chesapeake Bay refers to his wife as "she who must be obeyed" -- I think that's classic!
Actually a womans place is in the home or the excutive office or the left seat in a 747 or the captains chair on the bridge of an aircraft carrier or any other place she wants.!
"She who must be obeyed" is a classic indeed, usually seen as arising in the 1886 adventure novel "She," telling the tale of a trek into African regions ruled by a mysterious white woman, the "She" of the title, also called "she who must" etc. It was adopted and popularized in more recent times by John Mortimer's fictional barrister "Rumpole of the Bailey," who used the term to refer to his wife Hilda. The classics know best.
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Not boxing women, simply saying that a woman should be cherished and honored not cast off as so many in our day and age have done, as has been so well annotated in many of the posts. Or would you suppose there are more lady executives and airline pilots that would prefer divorce court to a romantic night out with somebody who cherishes and appreciates them? After 32 years with my high school sweetheart, I may be a little out of touch but I'm pretty sure that though the rules have changed a little, most real people appreciate a little real romance. And if some folks would focus on making their partner feel special and pretty (or handsome) there would be far fewer children from ruined homes, of which I am one.
Not boxing women, simply saying that a woman should be cherished and honored not cast off as so many in our day and age have done, as has been so well annotated in many of the posts. Or would you suppose there are more lady executives and airline pilots that would prefer divorce court to a romantic night out with somebody who cherishes and appreciates them? After 32 years with my high school sweetheart, I may be a little out of touch but I'm pretty sure that though the rules have changed a little, most real people appreciate a little real romance. And if some folks would focus on making their partner feel special and pretty (or handsome) there would be far fewer children from ruined homes, of which I am one.
I wasn't talking rights but rather responsibilities, of the sailors (mostly men in this forum) to nurture the rose rather than pluck it in lieu of another. Oh, and I skip the vase. I go for either special dark chocolate or Ben & Gerry's.
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