Weather helm
Sounds like a classic case of weather helm. The other two comment were correct, you're dumping the wrong sail. You want to keep the front most sail powered (appropriate for the wind conditions) and reduce the main sail. This will move the center of effort (CE) closer to the center of lateral resistance (CLR).
Additionally, you could move as much gear and other heavy items further aft before you set off. This moves the CLR closer to the CE.
If sailing in gusty conditions, reef the main and trim until your telltales stream nicely. Increase your uphaul and outhaul on the main to the flatten the sail.
Most importantly, don't let this put you off taking her out. Keep trying. The worst that will happen already has: weather helm turns the boat into the wind which is self limiting.
Sounds like a classic case of weather helm. The other two comment were correct, you're dumping the wrong sail. You want to keep the front most sail powered (appropriate for the wind conditions) and reduce the main sail. This will move the center of effort (CE) closer to the center of lateral resistance (CLR).
Additionally, you could move as much gear and other heavy items further aft before you set off. This moves the CLR closer to the CE.
If sailing in gusty conditions, reef the main and trim until your telltales stream nicely. Increase your uphaul and outhaul on the main to the flatten the sail.
Most importantly, don't let this put you off taking her out. Keep trying. The worst that will happen already has: weather helm turns the boat into the wind which is self limiting.