I have noticed that many people call their wives Admiral. My wife is not crazy about this title. How do I help her understand her proper place of honor and distinction?
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Even the use of the words "proper place" are gonna get you in trouble, I suspect.
How would she feel being referred to as "first mate"?
Hopefully, she's amenable to sailing, and if so, I think she'll come around to the term, eventually.
How would she feel being referred to as "first mate"?
Hopefully, she's amenable to sailing, and if so, I think she'll come around to the term, eventually.
Great advice, she doesn't want to be put on a pedestal. I will now and forever call her "firstmate." It is snowing and cold and I am bored so I am giving youall a chance to be witty. This is just for fun.
I'm sort of in the process of acclimating my wife to the operation of our little boat, how to stop it, outboard controls, etc.
Except in this case, it's not just for fun. For fun, we wear stretchy pants...
All that reading she does isn't helping her upper body strength, IMO. Maybe I'll get her a Shake Weight (or something along those lines), for Christmas.
Except in this case, it's not just for fun. For fun, we wear stretchy pants...
All that reading she does isn't helping her upper body strength, IMO. Maybe I'll get her a Shake Weight (or something along those lines
), for Christmas.
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It might be informative to find out what she would like instead of picking one for her.
I learned this at Holiday Inn Express last night, although I didn't stay there.
Also got the same tip at counseling sometime ago, but I forgot...
I learned this at Holiday Inn Express last night, although I didn't stay there.
Also got the same tip at counseling sometime ago, but I forgot...
Yep, she may want a special color Shake Weight. I'll ask.It might be informative to find out what she would like instead of picking one for her.
I learned this at Holiday Inn Express last night, although I didn't stay there.
Also got the same tip at counseling sometime ago, but I forgot...
She doesn't know the show 'Gilligan's Island' does she? He was a first mate. I suppose 'wench' is out too.
Many women find the title condescending. You might just want to call her by name. Titles on boats usually bring hard feelings amongst family.
My best advice is whatever you choose be patient and don't raise your voice. I can't speak for yours but most spouses I've met don't want to feel inferior. Admiral has that 'she's useless other than to sit there and give orders' connotation. The successful partnerships I've seen are whoever is on watch makes the decisions and all major decisions are discussed.
Hope this helps!
SC
My best advice is whatever you choose be patient and don't raise your voice. I can't speak for yours but most spouses I've met don't want to feel inferior. Admiral has that 'she's useless other than to sit there and give orders' connotation. The successful partnerships I've seen are whoever is on watch makes the decisions and all major decisions are discussed.
Hope this helps!
SC
My wife is Russian so she would prefer to be called by her first name followed by her fathers first name. This is the traditional form of a woman's name used to show respect. I usually just call her Woman, she calls me Man. This is a joke that has to do with a common translational error. Giving instructions to a person who has English as a second language adds a new meaning to frustration. I taught her to snow ski yesterday, the divorce attorney has been sent away for now. Joke
Add to it that sailing has another language of its own, and I can see where she could get very confused!
Firstmate when the boat comes off the trailer, progressing to Bow bunny when she puts the bikini on, then finally Wench when the liquor starts flowing and the bikini starts coming off. We have our own version of the shakie weight and after about a dozen brewski's get in her ima try the "Railmeat" name I think she'll really luv that one and be scrambling around lookin for her shakie weight.................
Be sure and set up your GoPro. We definitely want to see her reaction to being called railmeat.