PJ
PJ, nobody is disrepecting you, probably more concerned about your safety. Sailing isn't exactly rocket science, but it does take skills and a lot of practice to get good at it. In heavy winds and seas, small things can go critical mass quickly if you don't have the experience to handle it. I would strongly suggest that you go to one of the folks in the marina, if you are in one, and tell them that you are new to sailing and would like to crew with them to get some experience. I'm fairly sure that they will help you out as most sailors will do just that if you need help. If you are not in a marina, I'll bet if you ask around, you will find someone who will go out with you and help you learn. There is a lot that can be learned in safety classes, however, there is nothing like hands on experience at the tutor of an experienced sailor. If you keep at sailing, in a couple of months if not years, you will look back at your situation and laugh about it.Hang in there!