The Girls
The first time that I crewed on someone else's boat, it was on the 3-month-old Catalina 28 of a woman I didn't know well at the time. We were going on a 9-day cruise from Phila., PA to the Upper Chesapeake bay. She told me that she wasn't a great sailor, and I had had my Catalina 22 for about six months, and had a little sailing experience-but not much. We are both very independent, exhuberant, and outspoken women, and there were bets around our yacht club that she and I would be fighting, and that I would be calling home to be picked up in one of the places we were visiting. We caused a lot of lost bets that week, because not only did I call home only to send love to my kids, we came back to our yacht club hugging each other and promising to do it again sometime. I had a little sailing experience, and she could read a chart, so we had it made. She allowed me to sail her brand-new Catalina with its rails in the water. She fed me very well, and just generally treated me like an honored guest. I did things her way, unless she asked for suggestions. I think that when you are crewing someone else's boat, you just have to use your best manners, and remember that except for safety concerns, this boat is NOT yours, and for better or worse, SHE is the captain. Since then I've crewed for others, and keeping that in mind, have always had a good time, leaving the responsibility to the Captain, and just enjoying the ride.