I need your advise. I have been sailing since 1988. My husband introduced me to the world sailing. We have a trailable sailboat. He begged for me to agree to let him buy this beautiful boat. I now love this boat. He wants to sell!!!! What's up with that????? I want to keep the boat even if it means having to purchased another tow vehicle. Help me!!! Someone stole the sailor I love. My question is this: How do I convince him to keep the boat? Believe me, I have tried everything. Rox
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Bill O'Donovan
Try this
Pin him down on why he wants to sell. Make a list of pros and cons. Then make a list of aesthetic values. Show him how few COUPLES enjoy sailing. Leave him for any of a hundred guys here.
Pin him down on why he wants to sell. Make a list of pros and cons. Then make a list of aesthetic values. Show him how few COUPLES enjoy sailing. Leave him for any of a hundred guys here.
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Keith Wolfe
Get the boat!
Leaving him for anyone in this salty group might not be your best move, but if you do... take the boat with you!
Leaving him for anyone in this salty group might not be your best move, but if you do... take the boat with you!
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Steve
Come as you are...
Unless you are crazily attached to your boat... just come as you are... I don't think you will have too hard a time finding someone here, to sail with. Plenty of old salts and new salts who have their own boats and the wish to use them with company...
Unless you are crazily attached to your boat... just come as you are... I don't think you will have too hard a time finding someone here, to sail with. Plenty of old salts and new salts who have their own boats and the wish to use them with company...
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Mike I.
Get a Bigger boat
Look at a larger boat. My wife and I went from 22' up to a Catalina 30. The first season was like a 2nd honeymoon! Snuggling in the V-berth while at anchor at a far away exotic island...ah yes. OK, so it's only Catalina Island but it works for us.
Look at a larger boat. My wife and I went from 22' up to a Catalina 30. The first season was like a 2nd honeymoon! Snuggling in the V-berth while at anchor at a far away exotic island...ah yes. OK, so it's only Catalina Island but it works for us.
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R.W.Landau
Sorry to here your problem...
Rox, I owned a 23' boat for 4 years. My wife sailed maybe 8 times and not with any joy! I laid off one year, bought a 25 foot boat. My wife now loves it. She does not do well in close spaces and the 25 gave her head, freedom and, praise be to God, she likes to be there with me almost every weekend. I hope you work this out without having to leave your man. I hope your relationship is deeper than that. Remember that the boat is just an enhancement. ( Of course you could not have told me that 4 years ago.) Good luck Rox, r.w.landau
Rox, I owned a 23' boat for 4 years. My wife sailed maybe 8 times and not with any joy! I laid off one year, bought a 25 foot boat. My wife now loves it. She does not do well in close spaces and the 25 gave her head, freedom and, praise be to God, she likes to be there with me almost every weekend. I hope you work this out without having to leave your man. I hope your relationship is deeper than that. Remember that the boat is just an enhancement. ( Of course you could not have told me that 4 years ago.) Good luck Rox, r.w.landau
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Jeff M.
A case of VUJA DE
Bet this has never happened before! Lemme' see if I got this straight. Your hubby gets a sailboat, takes you sailing, you fall in love with it and now he wants to get rid of it? Serious bummer and a rather poigant case of role reversal, wouldn't you say? Seriously though, I'd have to agree with Bill. Sit down and ask him WHY? This is just too weird to not have some underlying reason(s). (maybe his girlfriend wants a bigger boat! LOL!) And just remember, we're not all a bunch of OLD salts! (maybe Dr. Phil could do a segment on 'Women who love their boats and their men who want to sell them' (the boat, that is!!!))
Bet this has never happened before! Lemme' see if I got this straight. Your hubby gets a sailboat, takes you sailing, you fall in love with it and now he wants to get rid of it? Serious bummer and a rather poigant case of role reversal, wouldn't you say? Seriously though, I'd have to agree with Bill. Sit down and ask him WHY? This is just too weird to not have some underlying reason(s). (maybe his girlfriend wants a bigger boat! LOL!) And just remember, we're not all a bunch of OLD salts! (maybe Dr. Phil could do a segment on 'Women who love their boats and their men who want to sell them' (the boat, that is!!!))
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Rox
Dr. Phil.......how to sell your hubby
Ooh you gave me a great idea. I shall contact Dr. Phil and a bottle of rum.
Ooh you gave me a great idea. I shall contact Dr. Phil and a bottle of rum.
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Rox
Not leaving.........selling
A sailor in CA gave me the idea of selling my husband to Dr. Phil no less. So I plan to write Dr. Phil and hopefully become a guest on his TV show. You know I wanna be in lights!!! I could never leave the man who knows what I like!!!!!
A sailor in CA gave me the idea of selling my husband to Dr. Phil no less. So I plan to write Dr. Phil and hopefully become a guest on his TV show. You know I wanna be in lights!!! I could never leave the man who knows what I like!!!!!
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Rox
Bite your tongue!
Do not give my husband the idea that I want a bigger boat...........I love the fact that we can take it with us...........to any state......to any lake.........to any ocean. Please. Now where's that rum???
Do not give my husband the idea that I want a bigger boat...........I love the fact that we can take it with us...........to any state......to any lake.........to any ocean. Please. Now where's that rum???
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Rox
Let's do the dunes
My dear Keith, shall I meet you at the Dunes? I could arrive by car in 3 hours, unfortunately it is pouring rain out here. With the rum and the rain, I can't possible go out tonight..........I am no dummy.......the boat IS in my name!!!!
My dear Keith, shall I meet you at the Dunes? I could arrive by car in 3 hours, unfortunately it is pouring rain out here. With the rum and the rain, I can't possible go out tonight..........I am no dummy.......the boat IS in my name!!!!
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Rox
Checking calendar
Let me finish this rum and I'll go check my calendar to see what I can cancel. Which is the best flight from Rockford Airport to Washington? Oh sorry, eye doctor tomorrow, dinner at Jen's,soup and salad on Saturday at the Mill's, Sunday is Mass, looks like we are into Christmas break for that sailing invitation.
Let me finish this rum and I'll go check my calendar to see what I can cancel. Which is the best flight from Rockford Airport to Washington? Oh sorry, eye doctor tomorrow, dinner at Jen's,soup and salad on Saturday at the Mill's, Sunday is Mass, looks like we are into Christmas break for that sailing invitation.
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Jim Kolstoe
Easy solution . . .
The easy solution is that he gets one chance to convince you that the new boat is so superior to your current boat that a trade-in is the thing to do. Otherwise: his and her boats. You keep the current boat and he has to figure out acceptable (affordable) financing. No fighting over who drives, who cleans up after the day's sailing. The only kink in marital bliss is when you can't overcome the temtation to see who's faster. Jim Kolstoe, h23 Kara's Boo
The easy solution is that he gets one chance to convince you that the new boat is so superior to your current boat that a trade-in is the thing to do. Otherwise: his and her boats. You keep the current boat and he has to figure out acceptable (affordable) financing. No fighting over who drives, who cleans up after the day's sailing. The only kink in marital bliss is when you can't overcome the temtation to see who's faster. Jim Kolstoe, h23 Kara's Boo
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Neil Braun
Do both!!!!
the boat is in your name?!? Keep it. While he is sailing in his you can sail in yours, side by side off into the sunset.... Just think, maybe the boats will will fall in love with each other and sell you both to Dr Phill! My sweety loves sailing too but I would never dream of doing something with the boat she dident want to. I would say tell your hubby that you are keeping the one you have because you love it and that he can go right ahead and get another, both of you will be happy then and MAYBE you might just grow to love the new one too... By the way, Dr Phill will just mock you and make you both end up with a 2 seater kayak Cheers!
the boat is in your name?!? Keep it. While he is sailing in his you can sail in yours, side by side off into the sunset.... Just think, maybe the boats will will fall in love with each other and sell you both to Dr Phill! My sweety loves sailing too but I would never dream of doing something with the boat she dident want to. I would say tell your hubby that you are keeping the one you have because you love it and that he can go right ahead and get another, both of you will be happy then and MAYBE you might just grow to love the new one too... By the way, Dr Phill will just mock you and make you both end up with a 2 seater kayak Cheers!
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Tim Donley
Old shoes, old VW's
Old deck shoes and old VW's are hard to part with so you keep them. You buy new ones with the comforting thought you still have the them ready to use when the need arises. The trailerable boat does not have to go away just because the is a bigger/newer (maybe not better) boat at the dock. The little boat is always there waiting for that trip to the other coast or any other special occasion that arises that it is not possible to use the bigger boat. Some days you guys decide the livelness of the little boat is in order for the days sailing for a change of pace. If you find the new boat is not it was thought to be , you still have the comfort of the "old boat" and the new boat may fade away to a new dock. Keep both if you can afford it, later you can decide which to part with if the need be. Keep hubby, my wife says after 31 years she is not up to training a new one. Good luck
Old deck shoes and old VW's are hard to part with so you keep them. You buy new ones with the comforting thought you still have the them ready to use when the need arises. The trailerable boat does not have to go away just because the is a bigger/newer (maybe not better) boat at the dock. The little boat is always there waiting for that trip to the other coast or any other special occasion that arises that it is not possible to use the bigger boat. Some days you guys decide the livelness of the little boat is in order for the days sailing for a change of pace. If you find the new boat is not it was thought to be , you still have the comfort of the "old boat" and the new boat may fade away to a new dock. Keep both if you can afford it, later you can decide which to part with if the need be. Keep hubby, my wife says after 31 years she is not up to training a new one. Good luck
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Julie
One of the reasons Why I own my own boat
*box If you want the boat keep the boat even if you have to make a deal with him over it. Keep on enjoying the boat if he wants a ride okay but he is crew. Sometimes there is no middle ground. Life is to short not to enjoy something you like that is so harmless as sailing. Worse comes to worse join a women's sailing group or form one there might be other women wanting to sail too. Trying to figure out why someone does something that goes against the grain is just a waste of time.
*box If you want the boat keep the boat even if you have to make a deal with him over it. Keep on enjoying the boat if he wants a ride okay but he is crew. Sometimes there is no middle ground. Life is to short not to enjoy something you like that is so harmless as sailing. Worse comes to worse join a women's sailing group or form one there might be other women wanting to sail too. Trying to figure out why someone does something that goes against the grain is just a waste of time.
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tom
interests change
I've been sailing for about 30 years. But have had other interests over the years. Touring motorcycle ,flying,kayaking,mountain bikes... I have always returned to sailing. My wife loves sailing but we mostly do stuff together. She has her own kayak and mountain bike. We toured on the motorcycle together. We had a trailerable sailboat for 8 years. Some years it got lots of use some years the motorcycle got more use. Convince him to keep the boat and pursue other interests for awhile. If he has been bitten with the sailing bug he'll want to sail again. Even chocolate cake gets old if you have it every day... Try some vanilla ice cream.
I've been sailing for about 30 years. But have had other interests over the years. Touring motorcycle ,flying,kayaking,mountain bikes... I have always returned to sailing. My wife loves sailing but we mostly do stuff together. She has her own kayak and mountain bike. We toured on the motorcycle together. We had a trailerable sailboat for 8 years. Some years it got lots of use some years the motorcycle got more use. Convince him to keep the boat and pursue other interests for awhile. If he has been bitten with the sailing bug he'll want to sail again. Even chocolate cake gets old if you have it every day... Try some vanilla ice cream.
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