Michael, you will get good advice on this forum when it come to generalities on sailing and sailboats. When it comes to picking a particular a boat, what you have experienced with the Dufour is as good as it will get: information on what others know and have inexperienced, NOT whether it's the boat for you. Only you can decide that. As someone mentioned, you cannot realistic make that judgement until you have your own knowledge and experience on which to base that judgement. In other words, owning and sailing your own boat. On your first boat you will have to take a chance. You make get lucky. More than likely, your first boat will teach you what you need to look for in your next boat. This is one reason I suggested a Catalina 30. It's a fine boat for a coastal cruiser but, more importantly, it will be easier to resale than most others... for many reasons. Folks seem to like to bash the Hunters. There are likely more of them in any given marina than any other single brand. There is a reason for that... and many claim it's because they appeal to the female wants and needs. They do, and as you pointed out that's an important part of the equation. How do they sail, feel, perform, massage your particular ego? You simply don't have the experience to know that now. When I first started shopping for a "cruising" sailboat I was told by many around marinas that a Bristol or Cape Dory was the boat to have. I would have hated either as I was coming off one design racing catamarans and used to very responsive boats with tremendous "feel". You have no way of knowing what you want beyond the dock condo, so look at what appeals to you and your Admiral, ask the forum as you did with the Dufour on things to be aware of, then buy your training boat! You may get lucky... but few get the right boat on their first try. And don't listen to the naysayers on Hunters, etc. They may have perfectly valid opinions that have absolutely nothing to do with what YOU will find best suites you. Don't forget to enjoy the search... it can be one of the best parts!