You have to evaluate your boat and determine the strong points. On a cruiser like the hunter 44 I would expect that the bow roller was up to the job of retrieving the hook in any situation. You would want to inspect the attachment of whatever cleat, post or padeye you might want to alternatively tie off to. Until I upgraded the backing plates on my bow cleats my bow rollers were much stronger. Cleats should have backing plates, not fender washers! I snub off my all chain rode with a bridle to both forward cleats. There is no load on my bow roller.
If your windlass can't bring your boat to your anchor, you have a windlass problem, not an anchor / bow roller problem. Run your engine in neutral to generate the volts/amperage you need for reliable windlass operation, draw yourself to your anchor on short scope and let the anchor shank lever to vertical, keep the boat in position on a tight rode. With a minute or two of patience the anchor will work free and your windlass will easily lift it out. If not, you rig a snub and ease the boat forward of the anchor. This is a good way to lose some gelcoat off your bow, or topsides so it is a last resort. As in most sailing situations, easy does it.