The Captain... and the Admiral

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Jeff Smithwick

It's ours . . . not mine!

This vessel was purchased by us for us. We both love the water and boating in general. When we decided to move from small power boats to cruiser, we decided to make the move together. How can anyone make the kind of investment that this boat requires in time and money without the blessing of the spouse? It has been wonderful!
 
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Jay Meyer

She made me buy it!!

My other said "why don't you buy it" right in front of the dealer! Talk about a good way to start haggeling.
 
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JOHN DELEE

single handed

not married, so I have all the time I want without any distractions.
 
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Captain Kimo

No First Mate

>It's often been said that a sailboat is the mistress of its owner. How does your spouse or significant other feel about your relationship with your boat? • Tolerates my attention. Single hand for the most part. She cannot tolerate any further skin sun damage per her Dr. > Are they an equal partner in your boating enterprise? • No, has never been on my 96' Mac26X. > If not, are they resentful or jealous of the time and money you spend on the boat? • Probably, but she never said anything about it. > Is time sailing or working on the boat time for you to be alone, or is your spouse or SO invited along? • I have given up inviting her to go sailing. Not even evening sails on Moon lite nights have not attracted her, ugh! > How do you keep your spouse or SO from feeling like a guest on your boat? Or do you? • Having suffer one bout of skin cancer which required surgery and a long healing process, she does not want to be exposed to the sun and reflection of the sun off the water surface. Sail and race with a male friend who also enjoys sailing. Overnight anchoring is usually alone.
 
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Scott

She's a landlubber

My wife (read business manager) approved my purchase of a sailboat last year, with a budget of $2500. I explained to her the maintanence costs associated with a boat, but that I want to do most of the work myself which is cheaper. She went out with me three times; once there was a very light wind and she was bored, once there was a heavy wind and she got sick, and the third time was the day after Thanksgiving and she was cold. She has not ruled out another try this summer. The bottom line is that she knows that I enjoy sailing and is happy that I am happy. I have to work weekends, so it is not a matter of ditching her on her day off. Her only complaint is when I get back from sailing after 10:00 PM, because she worries about me. I am trying to get a VHF radio out of that situation. Although the boat is named Dulcinea (by a previous owner) I do not think of her as a "mistress". The only problem my wife has with the boat is the bills associated with hauling her out for the winter, and the tools and materials that I have purchased to perform maintenance. Fortunately I can put the boat in our yard, which is a great savings over paying a boatyard. All in all, I am glad that my mid-western wife has any interest in sailing at all, and that she understands how much I enjoy my time on the water. Now, if I can just get approval for some new sails...
 
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Trevor

Kindling and Old Flame

This article was written in the Newsday newspaper on Long island NY on Sunday July 23, 1972 by Chapin Day. Chapin currently works for Signature Yachts in Seattle and deals Hunter sailboats, among other brands. I thought it might be appropriate for this topic. Kindling an Old Flame My wife, who keeps track of such things, reported the other day that our forthcoming anniversary will be our sixth. This unsolicited statistic would have passed acknowledged only by my gratuitous grunt if she had left it at that - but she went on. "I wonder," she continued carefully, "if the seven-year itch begins in the seventh year or after the seventh anniversary." What, I wondered, had sparked my wife's musing? Certainly she couldn't be bored with her life in our two bedroom American Dream - not with daytime television to keep her four-year university experience to the household chores. No, I concluded, she is satisfied. She must be worried that I might be itching. Nothing could be further from the truth. I have been disgustingly faithful ever since the day I found her reading the U.S. Department of Agriculture pamphlet on do-it-yourself methods of controlling sheep procreation. Forwarned is forearmed. Consequently cautious and circumspect with all women, how could I have prompted my wife's concern? Then I remembered. Lilith. Long, lean, sleek Lilith. Lovely Lilith. Fast Lilith. More than once in the last few months, I recalled, my wife had found me in the garage stripping Lilith and running my hands over her smooth bottom. Telltake check stubs recorded extravagant purchases of cosmetics and baubles - all for Lilith. And most of my spare time had been spent pampering Lilith. A year ago, when I first saw Lilith, she seemed forlorn and abandoned. She belonged to another married man. Although she bore scars left when their affair had gone on the rocks several years ago, he still clung to her, promising to resurrect their affair but too preoccupied with his wife and children to do her justice. Sheer, mad ecstasy when he offered Lilith to me. Seventeen feet of peeling paint and varnish. Under it all, that fabulous shape, the promise of exciting, fast action beneath her wardrobe of white sails. My hours of infidelity began, erasing the scars of Lilith's past, restoring her beauty, and updating her fashions. Our garage became a Pygmalion workshop where I lovingly labored to turn my erstwhile Hesperus into a proper yacht capable of hiding her origins from the class-conscious denizens of North Shore harbors. Now, the affair is ending. The launching is this week, and even my wife is looking forward to the event. It will give her an opportunity to smack her competition across the bow with a bottle, an overtly hostile act sanctioned by seafaring tradition. When the glass breaks and the bubbly liquid (Schweppes) splashes against the hull, Lilith with be no more. Partly because my wife has tired of playing Side A to my hypotenuse in our marital triange, Lilith with sport a new, sexless name on her transom. I don't mind. I have the memories of my romance. And I want to be more attentive to my wife. For instance, I've already picked out an anniversary gift for her - a gimballed compass and 75-feet of dacron line.
 
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jim Anzalone

She is a good camper!

I know she doesn't mind it that much. I figure 2 weekend a month and I go by my self for the other 2, but only for the day! Not bad!!!
 
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Bruce Moore

Sailing Montana

She wasn't sure about the XJ12, now she loves it. She isn't sure about our new cat 22 but !!!!!!
 
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Donna Anderson

Room for One More

My S.O. liked the idea of my having the 25 ft. Wing alot..BUT she does not have head room for him (At 5'3" I'm fine) so he bought the ODay 17, headroom but... so he bought a Fisher 30! She is enroute from Florida so we are a couple of cats on that hot tin roof. I will teach him the finer points of offshore sailing and will keep the diesel running, he can do all of that teak! With the various dinghys we now have 8 boats. I would have to say we are in this together.
 
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Alan Ross

She's unenthusiastic

My wife, Marie, thinks sailing is hours of boredom punctuated by moments of terror. I can count on the fingers of two hands (maybe three) the time she's gone sailing with me. However, she likes the surroundings at the sailing club and some of the social life. Eagle Creek Sailing Club is located at Eagle Creek Reservoir west of Indianapolis.
 
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Jim Talbott

Maybe a mistress

When I bought my first O'Day sailboat 7 years ago, I had hoped that at least one of my family members would take an interest in the sport, like I have. They have (or have not) in the following order: My 14 year old daughter, my wife (age undisclosed), and my 16 year old son. The intensity of their interest varies from 'a little bit' to 'not in a million years'. I know that fiberglass boats are nearly indestructible, but I don't know about that kind of longevity. So, if my O'Day can be considered as a mistress of sorts, than that's just the way the winch handles fall. It's made me a happier man.
 
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SailboatOwners.com

Final results

Final results for the Quick Quiz ending 2/10/2002: Which best describes the relationship between your spouse / SO and your boat:    36% Equal partners  35% My thing but he/she is happy to come along  20% My thing but he/she participates reluctantly  10% He/she avoids the boat at all costs 838 owners responding
 
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P Waldeck

Lov of My Life

My wife loves it when I spend $$ on the boat. Makes it easy for her to spend on her shopping/hobbies with no comments or complaints from me. When she asked if the boat was the "Love of My Life" I (for once) had the perfect answer- "You're the love of my life- the boat is my Pride and Joy"
 
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