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I think you have a wonderful opportunity here to modify your boat and your skills in the coming sailing season. A few suggestions:1. If the rain soaked you and you were suffering from hypothermia, I would conjecture that you either had no or inadequate foul weather gear. You can buy such gear that is adequate for coasting for $150.00. Also, that's why you heave to and let it blow out, or run slowly before it. As someone else noted, things calm down radically. That's why I would have tried heaving to on a tack away from your sandbar. Lot's of times, once your heaved to, you can go below and watch out of the ports, or pop your head out every five minutes. No need to be soaked.2. So, learn to heave to. Archives will tell you how, as will a web search. Then practice it till you are comfortable with it.3. Equip your sail plan such that you can radically reduce sail area. Double or deep reef point in main. Small headsail. Then follow the old saying ... reef early and often.4. Learn to handle your boat without having to be at the tiller 100% of the time. I use a piece of line wrapped around the tiller, and shockcorded to each side of the boat. Puts some tension on it and holds it where you set it. On a broad reach or heaved to, I can leave the cockpit for several minutes at a time. Practice this in 10 knots, then try to extend your skills into higher winds. Learn boat balance.5. Figure out how you want to safely leave the cockpit, cause as a singlehander, you're simply going to have to (to make a sail change, handle your damaged anchor fitting, etc.). PFD's, tethers, etc.My compliments to you as a sailer! You're doing GREAT, cause you're already heading out on 30 mile trips, singlehanding, etc. But now you need to develop some new skills that let you do all that without causing heartburn.Tom