If you haven't been through this yourself, you probably know someone who has had a difficult conversation with an aging parent or grandparent about their ability to safely operate a car. There are even guides published about how to compassionately take the keys from aging relatives. I have not found any guide or advice about how to handle this situation with respect to boating, so I am turning to this forum in hopes that some of you may have dealt with this before and have guidance to share.
There are a number of older members of my yacht club who enrich the club in untold ways with the experience of their many years. Most of these folks have taken a realistic look at their abilities as they have aged and, if/when they reached the point that they were no longer able to safely manage a boat, have either taken on more capable crew to help or have limited their sailing to going out on the boats of others. Unfortunately, not everyone is as aware of their own limitations.
Hypothetically, if a club member plowed his boat into the dock and other boats while inebriated, that would be troubling but dealing with it would be relatively simple. But what do you do when that hypothetical club member does the same thing because he doesn't realize his engine is in gear or understand that putting the engine in neutral will aid the good Samaritans on the dock who are scrambling to keep his boat from riding down other boats? The first step (after stopping and securing his boat!) would obviously be to have an honest and compassionate conversation with the skipper-- but what if that person does not think there is any problem and insists on continuing to operate his vessel?
The primary function of the yacht club is to provide a safe environment for members to enjoy boating, so it seems like the club should take some action in this hypothetical situation. On the other hand, a yacht club is not the DMV-- it does not issue operator's licenses and the only way it has to prevent a member from operating their own vessel on club property is to revoke that person's club membership altogether, which is definitely not a desired outcome here.
There must be others on this forum who have dealt with this issue at their own yacht clubs. Please, share how you handled it.
There are a number of older members of my yacht club who enrich the club in untold ways with the experience of their many years. Most of these folks have taken a realistic look at their abilities as they have aged and, if/when they reached the point that they were no longer able to safely manage a boat, have either taken on more capable crew to help or have limited their sailing to going out on the boats of others. Unfortunately, not everyone is as aware of their own limitations.
Hypothetically, if a club member plowed his boat into the dock and other boats while inebriated, that would be troubling but dealing with it would be relatively simple. But what do you do when that hypothetical club member does the same thing because he doesn't realize his engine is in gear or understand that putting the engine in neutral will aid the good Samaritans on the dock who are scrambling to keep his boat from riding down other boats? The first step (after stopping and securing his boat!) would obviously be to have an honest and compassionate conversation with the skipper-- but what if that person does not think there is any problem and insists on continuing to operate his vessel?
The primary function of the yacht club is to provide a safe environment for members to enjoy boating, so it seems like the club should take some action in this hypothetical situation. On the other hand, a yacht club is not the DMV-- it does not issue operator's licenses and the only way it has to prevent a member from operating their own vessel on club property is to revoke that person's club membership altogether, which is definitely not a desired outcome here.
There must be others on this forum who have dealt with this issue at their own yacht clubs. Please, share how you handled it.