Good try
but to meet your criteria of "...in constantly varying wind and wave conditions" you'd never find something that would work. When the wind changes, you have to, too. What I suggest you do is learn how your boat behaves. Here's how we do it: reef early, like before you leave the dock. An underpowered boat is usually easier to balance, and generally not that much (comparatively) slower than one with a full main up in winds over 10 kts. That said, as we became more experienced with our boat, we could find "the GROOVE" sailing upwind in winds in the 15 to 20 kt range with a full main and the boat would sail itself with the sails properly set. The autopilot has a lot less load on it -- or you can feel it in the wheel or tiller. I learned how to do this on C22, C25 and our C34 by playing with the sails when the autopilot was on and finding what trim minimized the autopilot's work. In many cases, once the boat is trimmed right, I can turn the AP off and still sail consistently. Also, the size of your headsail has a lot to do with balance, many are very oversized. So, learn your boat, there are no tricks except good sail trim and balance.