Similar issue for us
My wife doesn't enjoy the long hours of sailing and motoring. She has osteoarthritis and the motion causes her a lot of discomfort if not actual pain. One trip to Desolation Sound from Seattle, I took the boat and my 8 year old nephew up to Squirrel Cove and she took a seaplane up to meet us and to return. She brought the cat (previous cat not the Bengal we have now) with her one way. They gave her earplugs for the cat. I cannot imagine how you get a cat to wear earplugs. I was jealous of her getting to fly (the only thing better than sailing is flying) and she was jealous of our sailing along with a pod of Orcas following. I guess we must be doing ok. If we can both be jealous of each others experience, that says something. It gave us an opportunity to share our unique observations about something we love. In a funny kind of way it brings us closer. This afternoon, we are both flying to Friday Harbor. That will be fun. We also got to enjoy a couple of weeks there - mostly anchored. Sorry for your alzheimers issue. That must be very tragic for you both. "When I suggest that she stay with her Mom for several months at a time she says that she doesn't like that idea." I am not sure from this comment what your (or her) primary concern is. Is the issue 1. that she is afraid of being away from shore or 2. being away from you or 3. you being away from shore? Does she need your help to care for her mom? You need not answer - getting the problem defined is probably all you need to do. I am quite sure you will make the appropriate choice for all concerned. I am curious what you will do if you don't mind saying.
My wife doesn't enjoy the long hours of sailing and motoring. She has osteoarthritis and the motion causes her a lot of discomfort if not actual pain. One trip to Desolation Sound from Seattle, I took the boat and my 8 year old nephew up to Squirrel Cove and she took a seaplane up to meet us and to return. She brought the cat (previous cat not the Bengal we have now) with her one way. They gave her earplugs for the cat. I cannot imagine how you get a cat to wear earplugs. I was jealous of her getting to fly (the only thing better than sailing is flying) and she was jealous of our sailing along with a pod of Orcas following. I guess we must be doing ok. If we can both be jealous of each others experience, that says something. It gave us an opportunity to share our unique observations about something we love. In a funny kind of way it brings us closer. This afternoon, we are both flying to Friday Harbor. That will be fun. We also got to enjoy a couple of weeks there - mostly anchored. Sorry for your alzheimers issue. That must be very tragic for you both. "When I suggest that she stay with her Mom for several months at a time she says that she doesn't like that idea." I am not sure from this comment what your (or her) primary concern is. Is the issue 1. that she is afraid of being away from shore or 2. being away from you or 3. you being away from shore? Does she need your help to care for her mom? You need not answer - getting the problem defined is probably all you need to do. I am quite sure you will make the appropriate choice for all concerned. I am curious what you will do if you don't mind saying.
