with me and my club
At our small yacht club most of the women will not sail with their men. They are there for other reasons. Don't get me wrong, there are some that do, but in my experience sailing seems to be more of a guy thing generally.Here is my life experience...Bought a small punt 28 years ago, asked wife to go sailing, she didn't like it, bought larger dinghy 26 years ago, ask wife to join me, she didn't like it. Bought larger cabin cruiser power boat 20 years ago, asked wife to join me, she didn't like it. Gave up boating, and took up backcountry camping 15 years ago, asked wife to join me, she didn't like it, (getting the picture), so finally I bought another 16' open family sailboat 4 years ago and got back into sailing. Wife didn't like it and in fact did not want it in the driveway, so encouraged me to keep it at the yacht club. I did so, and like the yacht club style so much that I bought a 20' cabin sailboat I wanted 2 years ago, and invite wife to join me but accept that generally she doesn't like it and prefers to be at the yacht club for other reasons.It has modified the boat I have chosen to sail. If she was really into it, I could rationalize a larger boat with standing headroom, and better amenities. We would treat it like a cottage on the water. (We already have a cottage). I am happy however with the compromise of a small pocket cruiser that allows me to cook aboard, store junk, stay overnight, and do some weekend sailing. She says she would like to join me, but I do understand that it would not be a reqular thing. We do other things as well, but sailing is MY thing, and when we are at the yacht club together, its not all about sailing. A few weeks ago she helped me haul it out; even volunteered to power wash it, enjoyed the company of others at the club, and we all went out for a community fall supper afterwards. She indicated that she wants to make that an annual tradition. How could I have it better than that when she doesn't like sailing?