Something that has not been addressed is the fact that to get the bottle completely refilled it is necessary to pull up on the valve core type pressure relief valve to expel air. Just use long nose pliers to do this. Chief
From the Coleman site, that produce the small bottles,
Can I refill a Coleman® Propane Cylinder?
No. The cylinders are not designed to be and are not safe when refilled. Our 16.4 oz. cylinders, and all other cylinders marked DOT-39, which are produced in accordance with Department of Transportation regulations which preclude their refilling.
The regulations also specifically state that each cylinder must be marked with: "Federal law forbids transportation if refilled-penalty up to $500,000 fine and 5 years imprisonment (49 USC 5124)".
Some other companies offer refilling kits or tools. We strongly recommend that you do not attempt to use these products. Refilled cylinders can leak from the valves or the valves can fail resulting in an uncontrolled release of propane. In addition, the main valve, relief valve and structural components of the cylinders are not designed to accept the pressures that may occur during refilling. Overpressure may result in failure of these components and the uncontrolled release of propane.