Real Cost of Your Boat - at the Admiralty?

[OldCat]

What was the REAL cost of your boat - not in dollars, but, say the extra cost to buy off the Admiral? You know what I mean, in diamonds, pearls and fine furniture, for the Admiral, say, in percentage of the boat?Its about time for me to go boat shopping and I thought that I might get an idea of the real "cost".

 

[Ross]

That depends

Is it my boat, her boat or our boat? If she desides that it is her boat and she lets you sail it, than it won't cost TOO much, but if it is your boat, Then you are in deep water with a very short anchor rode.

 

[r.w.landau]

OldCat

How long has that bride been with you? If you have always had water in your blood, and if you did not kick her too much..... she is not dumb. A good plan (and planning)with the Admirable is suggested. #1 She already knows your freakiziod need for a boat.#2 she already knows the signs that you give when lieing.#3 If she loves you she will want what is best for you as you want for her.OK, it's yours from here out.....It took too many years for my wife to love me and the boat. It would be rough to go through again. However, she understands my freakizoidness about boats and is now becoming the BOAT MATE that took many years to have.What a blessing. Talk it out, it is not only cheaper, it is great for the relationship! r.w.landau

 

[higgs]

Establish equal independence

I came with a boat so my wife knew upfront I was into the sport, even though she was/is luke warm. I have always supported my habit by making extra money outside my regualr salary so it was always my money. My real plan was to buy an offshore boat when I retired and do some 3 - 4 month trips. I knew this was not her thing. I started laying the ground work 5 years before I retired, so when the day finally came it was not a big problem. I bought the boat and work part time to make the payments and the summer cruises are planned and she will join me for part of them. Almost no fuss.Another thing, I allow her to do her thing as well and sometimes she takes off for a few weeks to visit her family or other adventures. What's good for the goose.............making sure she has the same independence you are asking for is imprortant and that come down to the money.....is good for the gander. This has taken a while to establish this give and take, but it has worked for the 25 years we have been married.

 

[Franklin]

different strokes for different folks

Just like anchors, different people have different characteristics. Just like the danforth doesn't catch well in grass, some women don't like to be without their man for more then a few hours. So just because somebody has a danforth and it is the best anchor in the world for them, it may not be the best for you. You have to look at the characteristics of your woman before you can even begin to find a good solution. She may not want her freetime away from you so that may not be a good payback. Usually though, those types of women who don't like to be away from their man, they don't care what they do as long as they are comfortable and with him.So, are there things she likes to do without you? Is she the type to want freedom (I'm not just talking about a couple of hours out with the girls)? If not, I would try my best to find a way for her to want to go with. Maybe all that is needed is just a bit of creativity. I know women used to hate it that all I do is watch football on Sundays, but I found a way to make it enjoyable for them too. Just have to get creative.

 

[Rana Toro]

Her Boat

No problems here...It's "her" boat.

 

[NYSail]

joint ownership

I have been blessed with a wife that loves to tinker on the boat as much as I do. She is the best at wood working, window replacement and improving at sail setting. The best mate a guy could ask for!However, I do have to keep the boat well stocked with provissions that meet her needs as well as buying all sorts of special tools and boat parts!Greg

 

[OldCat]

A Good One . . .

"Is it my boat, her boat or our boat? If she desides that it is her boat and she lets you sail it, than it won't cost TOO much, but if it is your boat, Then you are in deep water with a very short anchor rode. "LMAO!It's gonna cost me at least something in jewels, clothing and furniture!

 

[Sherry]

I don't have that problem

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[OldCat]

But if the Admiral is Your Husband?

If the Admiral is your husband, rather than the more common (but no need to be sexist) wife, don't you have the same problem with boat expenses? The spouse saying "what about me . . ."?Sherry - if I remember, your husband is not much of a sailor, but maybe I have that wrong?Of course, dual income would fix a lot of trouble - especially DINK (dual income, No Kids) - - - my finances are largely SINK (single income, numerous kids). But - the kids love to go sailing, so maybe 4/5 for the boat and 1/5 for ah, the extra costs?

 

[Bob]

Pre-Nup...."You Will Sail and We WIll Liveaboard"!

I am considered by many of my sailing brothers a very lucky man. I remarried seven years ago and my wife who hails from Rhode Island was and always has been a sailing and ocean lover. When we married she threatened me with, "if we do not buy a large sailboat and liveaboard, I am outta here"!Gee, says I, how am I to take this, especially after sailing for 30 years, owning 8 boats thus far and dreaming of the day I would get back to cruising and living aboard? Pure bliss....thats all I can say.Bob

 

[Bad Obsession]

It can be pricey but..................

I know that I have a bit of a boat bill coming. My wife is doing okay with my H-22 but it definately gets smaller when you are out for more than 7 days. I sacrifice by going ashore a lot and letting her shop when in port. She likes to have the amenities. I will probably upgrade to a Catalina 310 in a few years (that should appease her). I will say that there have been a few trips that I have considered making my wife the Governor of one of the small islands around the Chesepeake Bay!