I would think that unstepping would basically involve the reverse of the stepping procedure, so..... (I was surprised to see that the Manual advises pivoting the mast up from the bow, I would have expected doing it from the stern.) Anyway, here is the directions for (1977-85 models) Un-stepping the mast.
This is the basics and is written from my experiences of unstepping and stepping the mast of our old CAL 21 and from observing many other people stepping/unstepping mast on boats like the O'DAY 23, so use caution if using my advice, NO WARRANTY is offered on these directions!
I would begin by attaching a length of line (about 20' +/-) to the end of the jib halyard (shackle end), and run it through a block attached to the bow cleats or the stem fitting using the hole normally used for the jib tack. Lead this line aft to one of the jib sheet winches and have a third person tail this line using the winch to snub it (this could be the same person who I mention below tending the forestay?) This person will gradually ease the line out as the mast pivots down, taking some of the load off the person guiding the mast down.
1) loosen the backstay turnbuckle a few turns. to gain a little slack.
2) with someone leaning against the aft side of the mast to tip it slightly forward, remove the forward pin from the mast hinge (tabernacle). Then, release the forestay turnbuckle from the stem fitting (may need to loosen this to allow slack to remove clevis pin)
3) the person at the forestay will hold tension on the forestay (or tail the line extending the jib halyard to a winch) while the person at the mast slowly allows the mast to begin to pivot aft. This person l need to carefully step down from the cabin top to the cockpit guiding the mast as it pivots down, it is a scary experience......!
4) Carefully walk back towards the stern as the mast pivots down, if you set up an aft support to rest the mast on once horizontal, set the mast on that, it you have the optional stern rail, it should be adequate to hold the mast but I would suggest making a better support if moving the boat very far (more than a few miles) to get home from the ramp.
5) once mast is horizontal, take a break to start breathing again! Then remove the aft pin from the mast hinge and slide mast forward to rest on a forward mast support or the bow rail. Secure mast in place before leaving ramp parking area.
My suggestion, have plenty of help the first time you do this!! Think EVERYTHING through completely before starting.
I'll let the O'DAY 23 owners give you more specific advice..... As I say, I have stepped/unstepped the mast on a CAL 21 several times, the mast on that boat is a bit lighter (but not much!) than the O 23, It is not hard to do this..... but it is not to be approached without careful thought. (I hope I'm not scaring you!!)
CAUTION: BEFORE UNSTEPPING THE MAST, BE SURE THAT THERE ARE NO OVERHEAD WIRES OR TREE BRANCHES. ALSO CHECK THAT THERE ARE NO OVERHEAD OBSTACLES BETWEEN RIGGING AREA AND LAUNCHING AREA.
Normally, when trailering this boat, only the Forestay needs to be unhooked to lower the mast; thus the other standing rigging can be left adjusted for the season. The Backstay will need to be loosened each time to unstep the mast, and then retighten after stepping the mast.