Might not accomplish goal
Not criticizing, just curious about your design. I stilll stay up at night turning this stuff over in my head.If the house and starter batteries are tied together when the ignition is turned on, and the house is discharged, your start battery will immediately start discharging into the house bank. This might be a problem.What I did was to connect the start battery directly to the starter. The engine electrical circuit power, as for paanel and glow plug, are distributed from the starter terminal. The alternator output goes directly to the house bank. A relay that senses the presence of a charging source (by voltage level detection) connects the house to the start battery. Since this is voltage-level controlled, with a dead house bank, the relay won't come on until the house is charged up enough for the voltage to come up (this is normally immediate). The only extra long wire was from the start battery to the house bank. However, you could put the relay in the engine compartment between the starter terminal and the alternator output terminal, and save that long wire. Maybe you could energize your relay with the alternator "on" signal, or the oil pressure switch. West Marine sells a relatively inexpensive relay-based battery combiner that will serve this purpose well. Let me know what you think.jv