Whoops!
Sorry, I speak with forked tongue.
I just ran Ham Radio Deluxe. It does NOT support PACTOR.
However, another program that I've used in the past is
MIXW .
I played with it for a while with my PCR-1000 and 651S1 receivers.
And it does support PACTOR, among others.
One of the nice things using this approach is that you don't need the modem. The programs use the computer sound card as the modem.
They can use CTS or RTS (I forget which) for PTT.
As for work taking over your life...... that's why I changed jobs last year.
Still on 24hr call, but not being the Chief Engineer at this station, my scope of responsibility is much smaller. I've had maybe six after hour calls in the last year.