Jayncee,
I am in the same boat (sorry). I was told to retune the mast but that could get very expensive quick if you are chasing a ghost. On my boat it happens in all wind conditions from dead calm to 20 plus knots. Sailing, motoring or in the slip I can hear the humming, very annoying.
What I have done is to let the boom rest on the arch and loose the main sheet/outhaul as a temporary solution and it has minimized the humming significantly. I would like to put a piece of wood under the boom to reduce the metal to metal contact between the boom and the arch. I tried like you tightening all the lines and the humming was worse, I can hear the humming at the end of the boom and at the base of the mast inside the forward cabin. Do you have a spinnaker halyard?
Maybe we should call hunter marine since there is more than one boat w/the same problem. Where did you buy your H49?
Was that you under the Bay Bridge Saturday afternoon? We turned around after the freighter went under the bridge to chase you (or whoever was in the H49) and we were doing 8 knots under the bridge very fast boat but lost the 49 in the crowd.
V49