Know what you want
Mike,With a family of 4, I'm not going to suggest you begin with a Sunfish, although they're a helluva lot of fun.At the same time, I'd agree with your intent to stay level headed and not buy a 42' boat after your first visit to a marina. Others here have made some good points about getting some experience first.I bought my first keel boat 3 seasons ago, a Hunter 28.5. Although a little on the big side for a starter boat, it was an excellent (albeit lucky) choice. At the time, my only previous sailing experience was sailing Sunfishes, which by the way, is an excellent way to learn the fundamentals of sailing.I took ASA 101 (basic keelboat) before I went anywhere in my new boat. I also hired a captain for private docking lessons, and spent some time sailing with the previous owner.This year, I moved up to a Hunter 54. At first it seemed an impossibly big boat to handle, but if you've mastered the fundamentals, you quickly realize that they apply equally to a 54 as they do to a 28.5.Here are a few suggestions:1) If your family has no keelboat experience, DEFINITELY do a charter on a similar-sized boat. I agree 1000% with Debra about heeling -- some people never get used to it, in which case you'll want to look at multihulls instead.2) You don't need to start with a Sunfish, but I agree with those who suggested you sign up for a basic sailing class. Your wife should come, too.3) As for buying any boat as a relatively new sailor, beware that your inexperience will not be able to inform you about equipment and features that only experience can instruct you on. If you have any friends who are sailors, enlist their advice. If you decide to start with a 42 foot boat, you won't be the first one who has done that. However, you are going to feel overwhelmed for a while. As someone here mentioned, some boatowners never go anywhere because they either lack the confidence or belatedly realize that it wasn't as romantic as seemed before they bought the boat.4) If you get a chance, go sailing on a rotten weather day (rainy, cold, windy, miserable). Bring your wife. Ignore how you feel while you're being slogged around -- everyone would rather be somewhere else in bad weather. But the next day, see how you feel. Do you feel good about it, do you feel a sense of pride? If you do, then welcome to the club. If not, sailing may not be for you.As for buying a boat in Florida to save money, you better factor in how you're going to get it to NJ. Are you going to sail it up? How, up the ICW? Do you have that kind of time? Who's going to navigate?Lastly, I'll embrace Debra's advice: "follow your dreams." But keep your eyes open at all times!Eric Lorguss/v Impulse (83H54)(I should talk with a boat named Impulse!)