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[cptskip]

What I meant is that my sister-in-law has gotten power-of-attorney over my father-in-law & all of his property. She has shut down the business, gotten it condemned & is trying to sell it out from under my husband. We are fighting her legally, but until we can get her out of power we still need to survive. I would be staying here for any court battles while my husband tries to keep a roof over our heads & food in our mouths. After we get my father-in-law away from her, then we are hoping that it is not too late to save the marina. If it is, then we will make sure that he is taken care of properly for the rest of his life. No nursing homes!!!!! He lost his wife of over 40 years, seven years ago, lost another wife 1 year ago. He wants to go back to his home, with all his memories & die. He wants to be with them. My sister-in-law has him in a rented house, will not let him go down to the marina & will not let anyone talk about the marina in front of him. The only times that he gets to leave the rented house is to go to the doctors. We are not trying to run out on him, we just want to make a new start somewhere else. There isn't much left here for us right now. My husband knows boats, wants to semi-retire & be able to work on whatever he wants to. He bought out all the old Columbia stock years ago & still has most of it.

 

[sailingdog]

Sorry to hear that... bad family relationships can really screw things up, especially when money or business is involved. I wish you and your husband luck in dealing with that...

 

[Patrick17430]

Head into the light

If I were you, I would cut my losses and move on. That story sounds like wayyy too much stress and heartache. Ive been in a weird family situation kind of like that before my-self and I wouldn't do it again for anything. If they have power of attorney over him and he's not legally, mentally stable enough to mind his own affairs, I would cast off for warmer weather. I wish you both alot of luck. If your husband knows boats, he'll find work.

 

[David in Sandusky]

This is hard!

Are you ready to live on your Ericsson? We would be good for a long time on our Hunter 27, but views differ on that idea.

If you are, then it seems to me that cruising south would be a good way for a rigger who knows how to run a marina to look for the next job. Take your money out of the house, or save the rent. Cruising will reduce your costs while you are looking for the next situation.

A legal situation can be better handled at a distance if you have a good lawyer you can trust. If you don't, then forget it!

I don't understand the nature of "the Columbia stock" your husband owns. Does that tie you down where you are? Can you put in storage so you can leave?

I pray that you can find peace, even in the midst of this stress.

 

[Roger Long]

Look up an elder abuse resource group or elder law aid organization in your area and run this by them. It's a classic situation. Parent gives power-of-attorney "just in case" and then finds their life being sold out from under them against their will. Sounds like your sister-in-law smells waterfront condos, the value of which is one of the greatest threats to boating as we know it.

If your father is competent enough to make his wishes known and has not been formally judged incapable of handling his affairs, an aid group will know the drill to have him express his wishes in front of an impartial party.

As you describe this, a crime is being committed and you will be able to get people outside the family involved on that basis.

 

[Ed Schenck]

Four responses above, all thoughtful, wise , and compassionate. You guys make me proud to be part of this sailing community.

My heart goes out to you and your husband.

 

[zeehag]

good luck and donot let the abuse continue please.......goooodluck--and what everyone else already said...

 

[sailaway78]

Some experience

I have some experience with a similar situation. My best advice it to walk away. My sons went through hell, spent a lot of money to no avail. Ex sister in law did the exact same thing with ex father in law. She managed to take it one step farther and get most records sealed.
The main problem is that a normal, honest hard working person, cannot think on the same level as a greedy money grubber, and just manage to always stay one step behind.

 

[Patrick17430]

Adios, Bottom Feeders

X2 on the money grubbing. With family like that, who needs enemies. Money can be evil.

 

[zeehag]

amen to what nice n easy said .....

phil i like your new avatar LOL.....destin , i presume !!!!!!!

 

[ggrizzard]

Hey Phil, If Skip has all the Columbia stock (as in Parts), could you suggest a way for him to be a resource for the many Columbia owners out there?

 

[Dan Johnson]

Columbia "stock"...

Skip, having been an active member of the Columbia Yacht Owners Assoc, I would recommend that you get in touch with Paul Esterle by way of his Capt'n Pauly website or at the Nor'Easter Magazine in North East, Md. Paul is still a main conduit to many of the Columbia guys and would be of great assistance in getting value for whatever you may have.

 

[dvideohd]

Good luck on selling your Columbia stock... A web site with "low temperature" effort might work to sell what you have... There are many owners - but not a lot of activity... Mine is Classic Plastic - and was so very well made...

--jerry