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I would come down in between John and Didereaux in terms of size, but the looking will help you sort that out.Big questions beyond your list: How much in the budget; how skilled at repair and maintenance; and how simple you want this to be.Check out listings in yachtworld.com (see attached link) and plug in the range of lengths, dollars and years, and you'll find a world of options. You are in a perfect place to see lots of good boats, and many of them are for sale.If you have time, wait for the annual SailExpo boat show in Spring where you can see lots of new boats in one place.If you know you want to trade up in a few years you should consider newer production boats from Hunter, Catalina or Benateau. They'll have more room per foot and are considered good "in and out" boats, meaning they are easy to sell and or trade up.For your close-to-shore needs, they'll do just fine from about 32 ft up to 36.If you are handy, you will get more boat for the dollar by buying older. Takes a little longer to find the right boat, but can save thousands. A boat as you describe could cost as little as $30,000 used, or as much as $200,000 new. That's a range!I was looking for a boat similar to what you describe, and ended up with a 37 ft Hunter cutter, the Cherubini design, which I would certainly recommend. The cockpit won't hold nine adults, but the decks will.But your needs might be better met with a smaller and newer boat. If you still work fulltime (with three kids, that's a safe bet) you'll want less maintenance, or a ready checkbook for any boat.Avoid wood to varnish.Have fun looking. And more fun sailing.Sanders