Mariner Found Near Molokai

Jan 19, 2010
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Hobie 16 & Rhodes 22 Skeeter Charleston
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This came across the wire yesterday but I got some pics to share in case you missed it

HONOLULU – The estranged son of a 67-year-old Hawaii fisherman rescued after 12 days at sea says the ordeal has motivated him to reunite with the man after not speaking to him since the 1990s. His father, Ron Ingraham, arrived Wednesday on the Hawaiian island of Molokai, where he lives on his boat that was towed to shore by the Coast Guard.


He was found dehydrated and hungry Tuesday after being missing since Thanksgiving, when the Coast Guard picked up his first mayday call. He radioed that he was in danger of sinking nearly 50 miles from the Big Island.


Coast Guard officials sought to contact his next of kin, son Zakary Ingraham, 43, in Missouri. They were unable to reach him until the following Monday, the day they decided to suspend the search.


"It's tough to put into words," Zakary Ingraham said in a phone interview Wednesday from St. Joseph, Missouri, as his father was en route to Molokai.


"You're crushed, and you don't know what to do," he said. "And of course, I'm in Missouri so that made it feel worse I couldn't go out and look for him. It was horrible."


Complicating his feelings was a wave of regret for all the years of lost contact and the fact that his father never met a grandson, 8.


"I always wanted to find him and get in touch with him," Zakary Ingraham said. But his father lives on a boat, subsists off fishing and has no known email address or cellphone number.


"We didn't really have a falling out," the son said. "We just kind of grew apart."
Zakary Ingraham lived in Kealakekua on the Big Island until age 7, when his parents split and he moved to the mainland with his mother.


He recalled pleading with the Coast Guard to extend the search: "I held on to hope. I knew my dad was tough. So I didn't feel like he was gone."


For Coast Guard officials, calling off a search is the hardest choice they have to make, Lt. Scott Carr said.


"You're making a decision to stop searching when you don't have a resolution," he said. "We searched for five days. ... We used every resource we had, and we weren't able to find him."
As the days wore on, Zakary Ingraham resigned himself to accepting his dad was gone.
And then he got a call Tuesday that his father was found.


"At first it didn't register," Zakary Ingraham said. He recalled picturing a floating life jacket on his lifeless father, thinking they must have found him dead.


"They said, 'He's alive,'" he said. "You might as well be on a Broadway show jumping up and clicking your heels, I was so happy."


In the days since, Zakary Ingraham has tried to learn more about his father. He said he reached a fellow Molokai fisherman who told him his dad had set out for the island of Lanai, where he planned to sell his fish.


The Coast Guard had no details yet about what went wrong on Ron Ingraham's boat or how he survived so long at sea.


"To my knowledge he didn't require any medical attention, other than he was tired, hungry and dehydrated," Carr said.


Efforts by The Associated Press to reach Ron Ingraham through the Coast Guard on Wednesday were unsuccessful.


A Navy ship was nearby when the Coast Guard received Ron Ingraham's mayday Tuesday. Crew members from that vessel, guided-missile destroyer USS Paul Hamilton, gave him water and food.


"It's the holidays. We all have family who we love and miss, being here stationed far away from the continental U.S.," Carr said. "Anytime we rescue a mariner is a great day."


Zakary Ingraham said he's trying to get a loan so he can afford to travel to Hawaii to see his father.


"When I see my dad, I'm going to give him a big hug," he said. "I'm going to do everything I can to get out there as soon as possible."
 

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Feb 26, 2004
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Catalina 34 224 Maple Bay, BC, Canada
He was in Honokohau Harbor, Kona, HI over last winter working on the boat. He had little money so was doing everything on the cheap. Tried to help him out but he was hard headed and hard to get him to listen. Had little to no experience with sailing though said he had fished in Alaska. Boat had minmal equipment so doubt he had an Epirb or much of any saftety equipment. Plan was to sail to Costa Rica where he had a friend. Had no self steering which made that voyage problematic.

At that time, he had a problem with the backstay being too short but was being pressured to leave the Harbor because he had overstayed the allowed time. Think he had a bad swage fitting that he had to replace. Did it with a mechanical terminal but had an issue with wire unlaying or something and had to cut more wire off than anticipated. When he left Kona, was headed to Molokai to hang out and work on the boat. Hadn't heard anything about him or the boat since until this.

Sailing the channels in the Islands can be brutal and really put a boat through a torture test. Current through the channels flows against the trades. Seas get very short and steep and the winds are usually 20k plus. Wouldn't be surprized if he had a sail or rigging failure that left him with marginal ability to carry sail.
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Jan 19, 2010
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Hobie 16 & Rhodes 22 Skeeter Charleston
From the photos, the rigging looks intact. He did radio in that he was taking water.
 
Feb 6, 2013
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Hunter 31 Deale, MD
What? How do you "just grow apart" from your next of kin, have no contact for 20 years, bring a son into the world who, 8 years later, has never met his grandfather? Some people just don't know how to be family. My parents carried me into the world and I carried them out.
 

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Sep 25, 2008
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boatless rainbow Callao, VA
What? How do you "just grow apart" from your next of kin, have no contact for 20 years, bring a son into the world who, 8 years later, has never met his grandfather? Some people just don't know how to be family. My parents carried me into the world and I carried them out.

Not every family is a hallmark card.

My father chose to not be in my son's life (nor mine), and my son is almost 25.
 
Aug 22, 2011
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MacGregor Venture V224 Cheeseland
And if you are separated by a couple of thousand miles and marginal incomes, not to mention formers that deny court ordered visitation for years on end while demanding support...

Sadly not so unusual
 
Jan 19, 2010
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Hobie 16 & Rhodes 22 Skeeter Charleston
Or a guy who raised his kid and then life moved on. My Dad lives on Molokai, I live in Virginia... When I was a kid, he was super dad. Camping and fishing and all of that stuff.. we are not supper close now but we talk and visit from time to time. When my kids were little, we did not see much of him. He was busy raising some adopted kids and I was busy starting a career and raising my own kids. And to fly my entire family to Molokai would cost $12K. The orthodontist got that money and not the airlines. If you read the article closely, the son did say that they just grew apart, there wasn't any kind of falling out. That is totally consistent with how my life's journey went. So I didn't read anything sinister into it. Do I wish I could have spent more time with my Dad? You betcha. Didn't happen. We do the best we can. I wouldn't make any assumptions about character or motives based on this story.
 
Oct 26, 2008
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Catalina 320 Barnegat, NJ
I agree ... I have a daughter who lives in Mexico and a son who lives in Thailand and it has been a few months since I've heard anything from them. Next thing I know, my son in Colorado may be going to Australia for a girl (we met her last summer). We don't often see any of my kids and this story provides some added inspiration to do something about that.
 
Apr 28, 2005
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Oday 302 Lake Perry, KS
Interesting....

Interesting perspective from the group on family life. Still happy to like my 92 year old father and my brother. Not much angst in my side of the family.

I just happened to catch a short story on this rescue on the "Today" show this morning before reading these posts.

The broadcast said he'd been dismasted...but the video showed him getting off a boat with the mast intact.

He radioed for help - then there was nothing for days - then apparently he radioed again and the CG found him.

He was lucid, appeared to be in good shape and said he'd subsisted on fish that he'd caught.

Not saying it's fishy....but all the pieces don't fit together in my mind.

Maybe he just decided to get away from it all for a while. There are days I certainly feel like that!