I'm pretty sure all diesel engine service manuals talk about using the proper oil. I'm sorry you may not have had the chance to read yours yet.
Look, we ALL were new to this stuff when we bought our boats. I was NOT born a diesel mechanic, or an electrician or a plumber.
I read, I learned. And I admit I'm old enough to have had the "pleasure" of doing all this before the blinkin' internet, which has, most will admit, made it waaay easier.
I wish you all the luck, but luck has nothing to do with it, it takes effort and a lot of reading, 'cuz you can't get all the answers in one thread on one boating forum.
I may have mentioned that we have, on our C34 website, assembled
Engines 101 - The BIGGEST & BEST collection of Universal Engine Information on the Internet
http://www.c34.org/wiki/index.php?title=Diesel_Engine
Please, feel free to avail yourself of it. It's taken many skippers many years to assemble the information, and we certainly hope it will save new skippers years of effort and $$.
We share as much as we can, but we've said it before: "We can make it available, but we can't make folks read it or even act on it."
I'm sure you, OTOH, will.