As for the rest of your questions, I'm not sure yet.   There are a few more stanchions with stress cracks, so I'll pop those off and see if they have gaskets.   Also, there is a shop that works with stainless and I'll see if they have some scraps that they can fashion into ovals to spread out pressure from the stanchion so I don't have to do this again.   As is, it's designed to fail.