Update....
When last I reported on my mast situation, I was ready to raise the mast. But when I got to the boat and started to attach the mast foot, I realized the mast foot was bent (torqued) so I had to order a new one of those. If I had tried to use the original mast foot, the mast would be hopelessly askew. Finally got all of the pieces either replaced or DIY made anew.
Went to the boat today and raised the mast. I HAD TWO FALSE STARTS.. both times the mast started to say to port, and the starboard baby stay would get real tight. I'd lower the mast and try to figure out what was causing this problem. I finally figured out what was going on...
I had the roller furled genoa sitting on the top of the mast as I raised it.. and it would start sliding a little to port. Didn't seem like anything to worry about but it started a compounding event... as the weight of genoa shifted to to port, the mast would also shift to port... which would cause the boat to list to port (I had the boat in the water). And as the boat would list to port, all of the above mentioned would shift even further to port and compound the entire affair. After I finally figured out the dynamics of why I was getting so much stress on the rigging, I bungee tied my roller furler to the mast so it would stay centered and I had my daughter walk the drum forward as I cranked the mast up... easy peasy, she went right on up with no trouble... We then used the boat hook to untie the bungees on the rolled up head sail. Made the boat ready and took her out for a short sail.
The only casualty in the end was my windex
Future procedure will include
1) RAISE THE MAST ON THE TRAILER!!!!!!!
That alone will solve any listing issues
2) Tie off the roller furler to the mast to keep it centered.
Thanks again everyone for your help and advice... and part numbers... Today was gorgeous and I actually got on the water a little bit. I'm hoping for a few warm days over T-giving and maybe break out the sleeping bags for one last sail overnight sail before the snow comes.