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Larry T

My Wife Loves Sailing

My wife loves going sailing but she generally leaves the sailing to me. She hasn't taken the time to learn the terminoligy - which I feel is very important, but she's happy to do whatever I show her how to do. When we bought the boat we had a 3 day sail back to home port so we shared steering duties - 2 on, 2 off. She did great during her time in charge once she understood what and how to do things - like what compass heading to hold and how to hold it. We ran into heavy seas during the trip that frightened her and I was afraid I had committed the ultimate sin - scaring her so much she wouldn't want to ever sail again, but she said as we motored into the home creek, "That was fun let's do it again soon!" She's great! If I can get her to learn the sailing terms, we'll have a 1st class sailor! At least she's learning them slowly.
 
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Larry T

re: Asking for Advice

You asked for help getting your wife to enjoy sailing - how about turning the boat into a social event? Have a dinner party (small) onboard with a few friends and maybe she'll enjoy that? I'm thinking the more time she's onboard, the more she'll like it. You too are missing too much fun! Of course, you could always say it's sailing or a mistress! I consider myself very lucky - we have a Cat27 and a Porsche 911! ;-)
 
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tom

re asking for advice

My mid life crisis began when I was 19 and has lasted for 30 years. My first wife never liked sailing especially in the open ocean. She liked horses and we had a couple that I rode regularly. But she never became interested in sailing or scuba two of my favorite pastimes. After a few years we divorced. Me and my 2nd wife now do most things together including scuba and sailing. Doing stuff together IMHO makes a marriage much stronger. It's great not having to argue about spending time sailing or diving because she is usually with me.
 
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Mike

My Mistress and My Wife

God has blessed me. My wife first learned of my love of sailing at a time I was boatless. (NO, I WASN'T STANDING ON A CORNER WITH A CARDBOARD SIGN SAYING "NEED HULL TO OUTFIT" JUST YET!). One day we were walking by one of many boat rental places in San Diego. I stopped to gaze at a sign showing prices for the rental of jet skis, pedal boats, fishing boats,catamarans etc. What caught my eye was the little part at the bottom about 17' sailboats for $35.00 an hour. My wife of 15 years knew of my prior loves, especially the sea. When she saw what I was looking at she suggested I rent a boat and take her out. She knew I loved to sail, and that it was important to me and wanted to give me this gift. She had never seen me on any craft except a charter fishing boat; she had never seen me under the influance of sail. The wind was almost non-existant, and with reluctance I agreed. A handy little 17', open cockpit daysailer slowly drifted away from the dock with both of us onboard. Through a misty Mission Bay fog, I gently teased a steady way and good control from the little lunker. Out in the bay, it all came flooding back. I was at home, at peace and at rest. The valium of my soul and the breath of my spirit took me. I was under sail again and that which might harm my serenity was left ashore. Ghosting in the mists of self and time, I questioned my desertion of sea. Four hours later, the little craft slid silently to the dock and tied up without a word or any notice taken by those ashore. I stepped upon the solid, unyielding ground renewed and ready for life. My wounderful wife, having witnessed and mentioned the transformation of my demeaner, activly helped me pursue the aquasition (sic) of my mistress, her namesake, the "Lady Lynne". She understands that it is not the boat, but the wind, tide, wave and current that invites me. The sun, the smell, the humidity and rain; even the fog work upon the mind and soul and allow those who understand, to reach peace. She has seen me shed years of burden in a single hour, my mood turn only to the better, and she knows when I leave my mistress and return to her, I have been healed and restored. My loving wife Lynne, for which my boat is named, Does not object to the boat, but welcomes her. She does not interfere with my relationship to the boat but rather participates. She stands quietly by, helping me to persue my love. Both Lynnes support me in thier unselfish way to accept the gifts that each can, and has given, but both cannot supply. It has been said that a man who has a great love in his life is blessed. I have been blessed three times. My wife, my boat and the sea. That all three should bestow upon me thier gifts without jelousy or possesivness is a gift God has given so very few. I could not wish for more. As for my wife, my boat and the sea? They are all three the only ones in my life who give so very much and ask for nothing in return. Mike, On Board the "Lady Lynne" San Diego, CA
 
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KEN NEILL

I DON'T THINK WE CAN AFFORD THIS BOAT

I has always been my dream to own a real sail boat. Two years ago I dragged my wife out on a cold January afternoon to look at a 1991 Cat28 which we bought after discovering "the boat loan". After a few weeks we signed the papers and waited 'till spring. We belong to the Hook Mountian Yacht Club, a do it your self bunch of fun loving folks who are always glad to lend a helping hand. However, when the money's tight the subject comes up,"we gota sell something". This causes a great deal of the blues but I think Ive convinced her that I need "Galilee" for my mental health and No I wont ever by a bigger boat, HA HA. Recenty, I caught her looking at Sail Mag and I said maybe some day we could charter in the Carribean.I reminded her how well she handled the wheel last season sooooo I think there's hope she'll get hooked too. Hope everyone has a blessed Christmas. Ken
 
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Dave Winiker

Definitly ours. My wife of 42 years (next week) truly enjoys sailing our Hunter31 - as long as the temperature is at least 70, the wind isn't more than 20 knots and we don't get within a quarter mile of another boat. Seriously though, she's come a long way since we bought our 1st boat - a Tanzer22 - about 10 years ago. It was her idea to buy a larger boat and she used her inheritence to do it. What a gal! We always sail together and I wouldn't leave the dock again without her as I once did. (I thought she was in the head.) She's becoming an excellent helmsman or is it helmswoman? We've come a long way from our first sail when I yelled out "Mind you helm" as I was raising the mainsail for the 1st time. Her reply was "What the hell are you talking about?" Our favorite daysail is up the Chesapeake Bay bay to Salt Pond where there is an excellent restrauant that serves great crab cakes and MGD. Life is good (with naps).
 
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Rich

Ron of Houston

Ron, Send me an email i would like to get together with you sometime. My boat is at watergate I will be down this weekend on Saturday for the X-mas thing they are having for the kids. rwilkinsii@yahoo.com
 
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David Fant

Sounds like good advice to me. I guess I'm going through my "young-life crisis"; 25 years old with a new (to me) house, car payments and slip fee is stretching us to the limit. Someday I'll have the money to pay for other people to do all this boat work for me! :)
 
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Brian

NO way

NO way Im the man of the boat an she knows it an recpects me for it.When the wind blows 30 to 40 knots she is so happy that I take control of the situation We booth have alot of fun on the boat but there can only be one Captain an its not her. Come on guys you are alowed to be men try it once in awile your women will love you for it.Dont let them control every thing.
 
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Kay (Les Bon Temps Catalina 27)

What is MGD ?

I am with out a clue what is MGD????
 
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Alan

My wife is jealous

only when she can't go out with me. When she can go, she is the best Admiral on the lake! I should add that after a sail this summer that brought back fond memories of sailing in an earlier time of our life, we decided to get a boat. I thought a small boat would be the way to go. She insisted on a cabin. I suggested a 22 footer. She insisted on a 25. We now enjoy an O25. Life is good!
 
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David D.

She has the helm

My wife steers the boat. She, as most females, does not have the upper body strength to work the sails. She is happy in that role, and sometimes I get to steer the boat. I just wish she knew how to back the boat into the slip. As a general note Everyone should get a USCG Auxiliary VSC, Vessel Safety Check, this year. West Marine & Boat US will give a 10% discount on purchased stuff with your paperwork, Pass or Fail. Besides you can get discounts on your insurance.
 
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Mike Whalen

Hey Alan

Do you keep your boat on the lake? I have an O25 as well here in Knoxville. There are 3 or 4 at the club here. Its a small Oworld. My direct email is whalenlaw@Bellsouth.net I'd be happy to discuss all the projects I haven't done yet! Enjoy the boat. Later, Mike
 
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Glenn Shelburne

I blame the whole endevior on Her

* box You see it was her Father that loaned me the money to buy my first 18ft daysailer. We wasn't married yet. I had to pry him off the tiller everytime he went out with me. As the Kid came and the boat became more smaller I blamed it on her dad when I looked into a larger boat. So we have a 26 footer in the barn waiting for spring. She has only been on it once as of July but we as a family have been out enough to just get the feeling of her. We know that it sure beats the power boat we had for cheap fun. So if she wants to go there's room now and if someone else from family goes well I guess it's ok with her. She knows that a boat in the yard or barn isn't where it should be. When I mentioned pulling her out of the barn and raising the mast and stringing light from bow to stern for Christmas Her response was well I guess if that's what you want to do People put light on their houses. So I guess we made it 25 years and 4 kids before we got this 26 footer. We'll sail when the weather right or make love at night. Don't bother Knocking if the Boats a rocking!
 
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Susi

If she sails it and repairs it , is it hers?

My husband really doesn't like to sail. He came down to the boat a couple of times--I think he has been sailing on it less than a handful of times in the 7 years we've owned one. I bought a new Yamaha engine 2 years ago--he still hasn't even seen that. The good news--he doesn't mind one bit that i keep spending money on this habit of mine--that may be because i take the kids with me on my adventures and he is left peacefully at home with the TV, his ballgames and the remote all to himself. What do you think?
 
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Carol

John.....and Christmas dinghy

I enjoyed seeing a picture of your dinghy, even if it's sitting on the hard.
 
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Carol

Two of a kind....

Okay, I'll confess.....we both love sailing....and, I don't have all the strenght I need to manage the sails...so, I'll be at the helm...while he hoist the sails....but that's okay, a womans work is never done....then comes the task of smooth sailing, and coctails to be made... Cheers, and a very Merry Christmas to all..:)
 
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