You are absolutely correct.Dave - you really should not assume it is a she. I have had men on my boat wetting their pants.
Pam
By all means encourage her to 'take command' of the boat - ALL aspects ... and YOU KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT, only 'gentle' corrections, then politely discuss, etc. She will automatically 'find the groove' at between 15 - 25 degrees of heel ... and this will be quite comfortable for her. Start with Don Guilettes' Sail Trim Users Guide: http://shop.sailboatowners.com/books/category-books.htm?cat=1321 etc. etc. etc. etc.We're now in my wife's 4th year of sailing and our second full summer with the Capri 22. While she's still not that interested in taking the helm (she will when I need to fix something or drop a sail), and doesn't like it when the wind gets over about 10-12 knots, she doesn't freak out anymore when we start to lean over. She definitely doesn't like it when whatever is on the bunks ends up on the cabin floor so I do my best to keep us under 20 degrees or at least make sure everything is stowed where it won't slide.
Kinda fun to watch that video UNTIL THE FENDERS showed up boucing around..........WHAT??You are absolutely correct.
The O'Day 192 is self righting and here is a youtube of one pacing along nicely at more than 15 degrees. It starts out with less heel but then she does what mine does, lays over and starts to get some giddy up.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=384z99s5aw4
She will feel much more comfortable on a bigger boatHow much heeling is too much heel for my O'day 192.
My partner gets pretty stressed out at 15 degrees. At what point do I pass the point of no return?