Your pump is in the wrong place
Tank contents are following the line of least resistance, which is a straight line to the deck, when you pump. Remove the pump and put a y-valve there...one side going to the deck fitting, the other to the pump (which may require a longer section of hose than is currently going from the tee to the deck fitting). Put the pump inline where you have the tee. Leave the vented loop where you have it--between the pump and the seacock.Pumps are supposed to pull liquids into them and push 'em out...that's how they work. So the fact the pump is pulling waste out of the tank and pushing it on through the line isn't the problem.Neither the vented loop (Y'all really DO need to learn how vented loops work...air doesn't get into a line through which anything is being PUSHED, only when PULLING). Waste IS making it over the top of the loop, but what's in line between the tee and the top of the loop is creating resistance...so pumping is sending tank contents both directions--over the loop AND straight up. And btw, you apparently need a gasket or o-ring under your deck fitting cap, 'cuz unless the seacock is closed or something is preventing anything from going toward the thru-hull, a manual you shouldn't have any seepage around it.Thanks for asking about my dad! Incredibly for someone his age, he's doing pretty well physically...he's all but beaten pneumonia and pleursey. But he's very frail now, and his illness has really taken a toll on his mind. He never had a trace of dementia before he got sick...now, he's more or less lucid (the new Alzheimers/anti-dementia drugs really do work!), but now has very little short term memory and an even shorter attention span. He's in a nursing home...unlikely that he'll ever be able to live at home again, even with help (I'd move into his house if he could )...he needs 24 hour supervision now, so it's unlikely he'll ever leave the nursing home. He's getting excellent care there, and I spend at least a couple of hours with him every day, making sure he does (the director of nursing and the administrator do NOT like to see me heading for their offices! <g>) So while my life is no longer a roller coaster ride--at least for now--he remains my central focus and will be for the rest of his life...taking each day at a time, grateful for each day in which there isn't another crisis. He's the reason I moved to Little Rock after my mother died...I'm an only child...he has no one else. And now that things HAVE settled down--at least for now--to somewhat of a routine, I should be able to spend a bit more time here. I've really appreciated your prayers and support for the last two months. Thank you!