Thanks for the input. The masthead/top part of the mast has a little bend to it aft. I have in mast main furling, and it works pretty well. I understand from these and other sources that a bend in the mast is not too good for the furling system. As far as I can tell, the boat was lightly sailed and when we got it, the starboard back stay was loose, like floppy loose. We tightened it a bit to about the same tension as the port back stay, (our Loos gauge won't go to the size rigging on the Beneteau, but I suppose I could use it for relative tension) but we're concerned with tightening it more because of the aforementioned bend in the mast top.
From the discussion above, judicious use of the lowers may help out here. I don't have a photo of the mast but I can get one. Also, I was sailing the other day and was looking up the mast under sail in about 12 knots gusting 16+ and saw the top of the mast flexing back and forth a bit. It is in left-right column, looking up the mast both under sail and at rest. I'll also have to see where the forward lowers attach to the mast, meaning are they high enough to affect the bit at the top.