Jim, I think rascal has some good stuff .
My wife and I do the annual GO-SAIL in our area. It is an event that people pay $10 a head to sail for anywhere from 1/2 to 1 hour. The proceeds go to our local Community Care Connection. The money goes to local charity. Mostly disabled.So, every year we face the disabled and getting them aboard. I have to say that we laugh, joke, love, and manhandle them aboard. All they really care about is the Sail that they are going on. Most disabled people know they are not graceful. Most of them know that it is out of the ordinary that someone would take them out sailing. They just want to do it. The more you let them do, the more they love it. By the way, they don't always do it right. But that is fun too. Most of the time we get them to sit on the gunwale and carefully swivel them from facing the dock to facing the cockpit. Then try to make thier plunk into the cockpit as easy a possible.Jim, IF they want to sail, you ain't going to scare them!On the GO-SAIL events, we take disabled and able people. We scare the able people but the disable love the thrill!Jim, deal with the person you are bringing aboard, not your anticipation about the the person. These people have great character! I am always amazed how much fun sailing with the disabled is! Enjoy,r.w.landau