Sherry (Pickwick Lake,TN) I'm not sure I have the answer to your qiestion. Many years ago I left sailing and moved into power boats and eventually ended up with high speed jet boats. My sons loved those boats. Unfortunately, everytime they brought them back to me they were in pieces!! Also, wherever we went I was the boat driver for delivering stuff to the campsites and pulling the skiers. About 15 years ago my wife and I decided to get back into sailing in order to slow down and smell the roses and we bought a sail boat. My sons hated it. They went out once and that was it. They said the sail boat was to slow and they never asked me to use it, which was fine with me. On the other hand, my daughter took to it very nicely. All she wanted to do was drive the boat. She did not care if it was under power or sail. Actually, she became a good driver. As she got older, it was harder and harder to get her on the boat but that is the way it goes but she did fit us into here schedule here and there. Sometimes she would bring a friend but most often not. After she married she brought her husband along but she was a better sailor than he. He must have sensed it because he stopped coming. I liked that because it gave us a chance to sail together. I really have treasured those sails because our daugthter died suddenly 5 days after 9/11. Two tragic events in one week was a lot to deal with. I've yet to get over either.
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Converting Kids and Teens
Some of it IMHO is just the kid - their own view of the world & themselves. My middle son Jeff will probably sail all his life - even though only 9, he loves it and is already thinking about air flow and sail trim. He will be teaching me the finer points of Don's book in a few years! My youngest will probably go bad on us - he always envys the Jet Skis. I'll try to make sure he gets some boating responsibility so he is safe and not just another citation collector on the lake. Lots of those this year. My oldest who knows? He nearly always wants to go - and he is excited about the charter ocean cruise that we are planning - guess I'll find out if he is into it or just thought the idea was cool. I try to build interest in my kids by letting them be hands on as much as they want and is safe. Try to teach well and be patient. Take along special treats, make it a special day with Dad. But mostly - I think it will be either in them or not in them. ****** Don: my sympathies for your loss, that has to be the toughest thing for a parent. ******
Some of it IMHO is just the kid - their own view of the world & themselves. My middle son Jeff will probably sail all his life - even though only 9, he loves it and is already thinking about air flow and sail trim. He will be teaching me the finer points of Don's book in a few years! My youngest will probably go bad on us - he always envys the Jet Skis. I'll try to make sure he gets some boating responsibility so he is safe and not just another citation collector on the lake. Lots of those this year. My oldest who knows? He nearly always wants to go - and he is excited about the charter ocean cruise that we are planning - guess I'll find out if he is into it or just thought the idea was cool. I try to build interest in my kids by letting them be hands on as much as they want and is safe. Try to teach well and be patient. Take along special treats, make it a special day with Dad. But mostly - I think it will be either in them or not in them. ****** Don: my sympathies for your loss, that has to be the toughest thing for a parent. ******
Make everything fun for the teenager
We bought our H36 two years ago and before that we sailed on lakes on a Capri16. When we want to go sailing to the channel islands my wife and I will do everything possible to make it fun for him. He likes to play chess, so the only time I'll play is on the boat. We bring his favorite foods. If he wants to go on the kayak we do it. If he wants to go to a different cove, we do it. We also let him have the nicest clean up jobs on the boat. We even took a two week vacation and he insisted on bringing and practicing his French Horn...now that is sacrifice. My point is that having our son with us is more important than the small details we do when we go sailing. He is 16 years old and he will be going away to college soon. I hope that when he grows old he can reflect on the wonderful times he had sailing with his old man and mom. Our thoughts are with you with the loss of your daughter.
We bought our H36 two years ago and before that we sailed on lakes on a Capri16. When we want to go sailing to the channel islands my wife and I will do everything possible to make it fun for him. He likes to play chess, so the only time I'll play is on the boat. We bring his favorite foods. If he wants to go on the kayak we do it. If he wants to go to a different cove, we do it. We also let him have the nicest clean up jobs on the boat. We even took a two week vacation and he insisted on bringing and practicing his French Horn...now that is sacrifice. My point is that having our son with us is more important than the small details we do when we go sailing. He is 16 years old and he will be going away to college soon. I hope that when he grows old he can reflect on the wonderful times he had sailing with his old man and mom. Our thoughts are with you with the loss of your daughter.
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