No David...
You asked how as "prudent and safe sailors did you allow a crossing situation to get to the point of passing 'within 5 feet'?" Your amazement at the situation and implication that it's apparently (automactically?) the author's fault for allowing it is what is off base. My point is that it's often beyond one's control whether someone comes within 5' of your boat. I do not know all of the facts of the original poster's situation, but just like driving, innocent drivers, and even the best of them, get rear ended, side-swiped, etc. The same thing can happen on our waters. I'm not talking about whether to report a violator, etc. I'm saying that sometimes maintaining a 5' clearance is a major feat.I'm not advocating unwavering alegiance to the ROR. Just like driving, one has to be on the defense 24/7 and act/react according to the situation, not the rule. But these situations can happen without your control - if a powerboat decides to buzz your bow, or a sailboat suddenly tacks on top of you in a narrow channel....and there are sailboats in front, behind and on either side of you...what can you do? Change tack? Stop in your tracks? No, you just try to pass without hitting them and hope that the other boat does the same. Not being able to get out of the way doesn't make you an unsafe captain as you imlpy. In fact maintaining that 5' clearance may be quite a feat. I haven't been on your part of the waters, but like some parts of LI Sound, I think the CB can be one of the most crowded and dangerous bodies of water in the country - and I've been on most of them. Unless you've been here on the Ches Bay on a Sat/Sunday in the summer, and particularly a holiday, I really don't think you can appreciate how busy and crowded it is - and the diversity of the crafts out there. Have you been here?I suggest that your viewpoint should be "geez, I'm glad that I've not been in that situation" rather than criticizing those who have been without more information.I'll put my soapbox away for now....