Capri 22
I can't comment on the J-22, but we have a toddler and a Capri 22. While there are times that I would like a larger boat such as a Catalina 25, I still have to say that we are delighted with our Capri 22. It works fine for us, and has enough performance to outrun a lot of what is on our lake, not withstanding that I've only been sailing a couple of years.We did add safety netting, and use a tether to keep our daughter from jumping overboard. While the cabin is not as big as it would be on a C-25, it has enough room for her, and is designed such that the seats/berths are at a good height for her to stand in between on the floor and play with things, or to climb up and fool around on the berths if she wants. The forward hatch is also at a great height for her to stand on the v-berth and look out.If I were shopping for a Capri 22 again, I would definately go for the racing package, simply because I think it makes a lot of sailing more convenient than without it. I would struggle over whether to get the fin keel or the wing keel, noting that we have the fin keel now, and love the extra stability it gives the boat. I understand the wing keel can make the boat a bit "tippier", and hence would stay away from the tall rig if I got the wing keel. On the other hand with the fin keel, we need to have the boat lifted in and out of the water, rather than launching from a trailer on a ramp, which is a down side. All in all though, given the fact that we have very little problem with shallow water where we are, I would probably opt for the fin keel again.One other option I would get, is the optional galley that is now available. The primary reason that I think about going up to a C-25 or C-27 is for the extra room when cruising. As a day sailer the Capri 22 is hard to beat.Good luck on the choice.George