I'm hoping you understand that using the vang (soft vang, not rigid) as a preventer means you have to disconnect it at the mast and re connect it on the toe rail in order to keep the boom in position. When you turn the boat, the vang/preventer must be disconnected, for obvious reasons. However, rigging a dedicated preventer is fairly simple, and you will be able to operate it from the cockpit. All you need is a length of line a small turning block forward of the mast. There are a couple ways to rig it... I can explain if you like.
You won't have any problem with the boom rising on a jibe if you simply control it by grabbing a handfull of mainsheet tackle and pull the thing across, rather than letting the wind slam it over. You should never jibe the boat without controlling the boom, either by pulling it across by hand, or cranking in and letting out the mainsheet.
You shouldn't have to mess with the vang when jibing if you're using it in the normal way. If you're vanging in heavier air on a run or reach and you feel the boat heading up, out of control, (broaching).... release the vang immediately to keep the boom out of the water so you can regain control of the boat.