Practice makes perfect
What works for one person doesn’t necessarily works for another, but this is what happened in my situation. My background is well versed in the knowledge about forces, weights, and balance and I’ve tried for years to explain how these things interrelate, to no avail. A few years ago (3, 4, 5?), to keep the peace, I agreed to buy and install a clinometer; I’ve done the first step and the second step is on my to-do list (I have a real aversion to drilling holes in the boat). In the meantime; however, my wife has been taking the helm – reluctantly and infrequently at first but gradually more often and taking on more difficult sailing conditions. In the past she never liked me to ‘race’ another boat; if there was another boat out there she would accuse me of ‘racing’ – and of course, you know, I wouldn’t do that! Now, however, if she is at the helm, it’s not racing – but she really enjoys ‘doing better’ than the other boat. What’s happened is a gradual shift in perception of what is bad about heeling; surprisingly, it’s not so bad anymore. Things falling down below – “oh well, pick them up later” (when she’s at the helm) whereas when I was steering that was a sure sign I was causing the boat to heel too much. Yes, I’m reminded that it’s been a few years since we bought the clinometer and I absolutely promise it will be installed – but things are gradually beginning to improve.My recommendation would be to go with the clinometer if there is a good vertical place to mount it, and try to take the helm once in a while, especially when conditions aren’t apt to change much and you can sail a long tack. Get the feel between helm pressure, helm angle, and notice what the boat is doing when the helm is moved slightly. Watch the windex, tell tails on the luff of the jib, apparent wind angle on the instruments, feel what is happening when you’re steering, and gradually, I’m sure, you’ll start feeling more comfortable with everything, and heeling a bit (more than what you’re comfortable with now) will not seem all that bad. Practice makes perfect.When it comes to cooking, my wife is an absolutely great cook and I can only ‘do’ oatmeal. Last year she was sick with the flu and I had to take care of cooking for a few days – with her detailed instructions and patience (sometimes worn thin), we both survived. Hopefully with sailing you’ll never have to take over, but who knows.