Tons of Advice:
Here is a list of tips that I use:
First off fenders are your friends. Use them to save the gel coat when the inevitable botched approach occurs to late for a graceful waveoff. If you always approach the dock no faster than you want to hit it, you will be fine.
Next, get in open water and experiment with how the boat reacts in reverse. I routinely teach by backing to a float.
Anytime in close quarters, live in neutral using thrust to adjust, then back to neutral.
Most boats will walk to port in reverse, so use this to your advantage and back with a port turn required.
Sometimes, you may be unable to swing the bow into the wind unless you have sufficient speed on and that may be too much speed for the approach. Until you are comfortable with your boat's backing characteristics, try to back into the wind. If the wind is blowing you into the slip it will take a bit more effort to swing or center the bow.
If you have to, turn around in the open water and then back down the fairway. It may look funny, but you will have time to get a feel for the winds.
Don't second guess the boat, if it wants to do a 270 to get in, sometimes you have to go with it.
Turn in forward gear using your rudder as a deflector... When backing to starboard, put the rudder hard to port and give a pulse of forward gear to start the bow moving to port as the stern pivots to starboard. As soon as it responds (only a second of thrust) go to idle then reverse and shift the rudder hard to starboard. Count to 3 and return to neutral. Repeat slowly gaining momentum in reverse. (Reverse the directions for a turn to port, but remember the stern will swing to port quickly so you will need forward and port to check the swing.)
Until the boat is moving, the rudder only works as a deflector, by leaving it amidships and giving little pulses of reverse followed by neutral, you can increase your sternway while using rudder and forward gear to check the swing.
Putting the rudder hard to starboard to stop a port walk will not have the desired effect in reverse until you have some way on. A few seconds reverse thrust, then neutral and right rudder will help you get going aft. With enough speed, the rudder will turn you, and if you need a last second twist, use forward gear.
Try to use the wind to turn the bow. If, as I back down the fairway, the wind is off the bow, I can use it to help swing the bow to align with the slip. If the winds are blowing out the fairway, I will drive in bow first and again use the winds to swing the bow into alignment.
Finally, don't over-anticipate. Wait until the stern quarter is in line with where you want to stop before you turn. Too often I see people start the turn early and overswing the bow ending up a bit short of the slip. I wait until my stern quarter is past the piling or finger pier of my slip to make my cut, and usually I use a few pulses of forward against the rudder to make the turn. This has the added benefit of stopping me in the slip so I can grab the stern line on the dock or my wife can hook the forward spring line.
Relax and approach slowly, and don't be afraid to wave off and try again. A repeat performance accompanied by a few laughs is much better than the all too frequent "shout and crash (dinner and a show??)" that I see in alot of marinas. And remember, we have all gooned it up on at least one...or in my case many occasions.
Hope this helps.I can also recommend the book "7 Steps to Successful Boat Docking"
http://www.amazon.com/7-Steps-Succe...1131/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1307125473&sr=8-1