#1 If you want AC shore power, find/buy a boat that already has it.
#2 If you insist on doing it yourself just be aware that this is an expensive undertaking to do correctly, especially if you don't already have the proper tools.
#3 Join the ABYC, via the recreational boat owner site, and you will have access to the standards. It actually cost less than what a professional pays. (bone of contention with many professionals)
Be aware that he standards are written for trained professionals so a lot of it won't mean much to you at face value, if you've not also been trained.. This is why you then buy Charlie Wings Boatowner's Illustrated Electrical Handbook (second edition) as well as Nigel Calder's current book and follow these exactly and compare what you're doing to the ABYC standards.
There are way too many points & nuances to cover in a forum post to get your AC side wired safely. The fact that you "have zippo wiring experience" really has me leaning to suggest that you a hire a pro, but with enough research and very good comprehension of what you've actually read, it can be done by a DIY. You absolutely need to take this seriously and need to do this by the standards or people can be killed..
One of the ABYC members, who is now heavily involved in ESD (electric shock drowning) education, lost his son to bad & non-compliant AC wiring. We have also had customers lose thousands of dollars in batteries due to non-complaint AC wiring as well, even though their boat was wired correctly.
#4 All that said I've been sailing and cruising since before I could walk and we've never plugged into shore power. As a marine electrician, I won't do this without an isolation transformer, and I am unwilling to install one when we don't need AC power.. The only time I use AC shore power is when the boat is next to my barn, on the hard, during the winter to run the charger, which powers the Espar in "power supply mode". Perhaps if you can explain exactly why you want/need AC power we can better guide you..
Best advice is follow #1...