If you heater depends on a gravity feed, does it have a metering pump? The Espar heaters have a special metering pump and don't have a return (like a diesel engine fuel supply). WHO MAKES YOUR HEATER? Was the day tank from the heater manufacturer?
Is your pump that fills the day tank manual or an electric fuel pump -- if electric, do you manually "switch it on" to fill the tank and then turn it off when it's full?
We've had Espar heaters on our last two boats (for over thirty years now) which have a metering pump. The metering pump is noticeable before the fan engages. It's hardly obnoxious -- and mildly comforting if you're want to get warm. (Unless of course, you haven't cared for the glow plug in some time. :^))) ).